What Are The Ingredients Of A Healthy Dating Relationship
March 27, 2009 by Yvonne
Filed under Dating Tips
I’m sure that a lot of people would like to have a healthy dating relationship. This is what many singles and couples would like to have in their lives. This is the ideal for a dating relationship. However, this ideal situation is so rare and the common outcome of most dating relationships are either breakups or that the passion fizzles out. Understand that an important key element in a healthy dating relationship is to be able to give.
Each partner must be able to give and recieve generously. There should not be any ‘quota’ on this kind of exchange. Of course, this exchange is not merely limited to gifts or physical things. Intangibles like love, affection and care are the main form of exchanges. If the dating relationship is based on geniune love and affection, then it will have a solid foundation for further development. If it is merely based on sex or control, then it will not last long.
For people who are engaged in healthy dating relationships, they will often feel happy and contented. This is because their basic needs are being met in this kind of nurturing relationship.
An often misunderstood view is that healthy dating relationships are often perfect and devoid of any conflicts. This is not nesscarily true. As we are all humans, mistakes or emotions may cause arguments or disagreements. The difference though is such issues will be resolved peacefully in healthy dating relationships.
If there were no occassional disagreements then the relationship would go stale very quickly. Another key factor that defines a healthy dating relationship is the ability to accept their partner as who they are. As mentione earlier, we are all humans with our own flaws. Being able to accept these flaws and accommodate them is very poweful.
Healthy dating relationships also depend on another key ingredient in order to work. That is communication. Communication or lack thereof of it can make or break dating relationships. Being able to talk about and share your dreams or thoughts to your partner is liberating and builds trust in each other. Imagine if the other party never voiced their thoughts and always keeps things to themselves. It will eventually each partner to drift away from each other.
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Great post! Thought I’d share a link in case any of you are interested. Lisa Daily (who wrote STOP GETTING DUMPED!) is giving away 25 signed copies of her new dating book HOW TO DATE LIKE A GROWN-UP all this month.
Here’s a link to the author’s website for anyone who’s interested:
http://lisadaily.com/datingexperttv/2009/01/win-1-of-25-signed-copies-of-how-to-date-like-a-grown-up/