The Checklist For Romantic Compatibility – 5 Predictors
March 19, 2009 by Marc Sandford
Filed under Dating Tips
Started dating someone but you aren’t sure whether the person is relationship material? There’s plenty of chemistry but how can you be sure that he or she is right for you? In order for a long term relationship to work out, chemistry alone won’t be enough.
The following are some compatibility indicators to be aware of when considering a future partner.
1.) Personality. The topic of personality is quite complicated and compatibility between the different types of personalities gets even more complicated. A simpler approach is to ask yourself: Do you often find this person’s conduct annoying?
Perhaps she or he is too hyperactive or maybe the person has no energy at all. Maybe he’s an obsessive perfectionist or maybe she is a control freak. Although there are countless ways that personalities can clash, the question is whether your interactions are stressing you.
2.) Social compatibility. If one person is a party animal and the other is shy, there will be conflict later on. Social compatibility has a big influence on the dates that the two of you will be able to enjoy together.
It affects the degree of comfort and fun that both of you experience at a party. The shy person may resent being left to fend for him or herself while the other makes new friends. The outgoing person resents being held back.
3.) Do you see eye to eye with respect to your priorities and values? One person may be a passionate activist while the other wants to relax and enjoy life.
Are both of you fanatical about being physically fit or do you prefer to spend the day on a couch? Maybe you are an introspective philosopher type while your partner prefers to do things. Does your partner resent you because you want to get ahead in your career?
4.) Financial compatibility. Among the different arguments between couples, money is usually the topic of the fight. There are people who are tight with their money, while other people have a more relaxed attitude about spending. Some individuals easily tolerate financial uncertainty while many others require a high degree of financial stability in their lives.
5.) Do the two of you have similar education levels? A large education gap can lead to insecurity, contempt, and resentment. A person with less education may dislike the overdone vocabulary of the other.
The person with more education may feel very limited by this. Education also affects your profession as well as your outlook on the world.
While this list of compatibilities is far from complete, a large difference in any one of these can cause stress in a relationship. On the other hand, an incompatibility doesn’t mean the relationship is impossible. It just places more demands on your maturity and ability to compromise.