Three Phrases That Will Take Your Pick-Up To Another Level

I have three phrases that I use to absorb a girl into my reality. These phrases have taken my game to another level in-field. Having some established phrases that are time tested under your belt can add some dynamic to your game.

My first choice would be “How Dare You!?” said in a mock-serious tone. This is great to use anytime an HB does anything outside of your frame. For example, say this HB takes a sip of your drink, touches you accidentally, or delivers a snide remark, simply look at her with exasperation and say, “How Dare You!?” Its a fun way to display value. They will usually follow it up with a laugh and intrigue. Making a woman aware of her innapropriate behavior is excellent for re-framing. Its a great way to bust her balls.

Another phrase I use that is excellent for building comfort is “OMG, me too! You’re starting to creep me out.” Finding commonalities with your target is pivotal when it comes to establishing comfort. I like to play a game in field where I tell a girl that we are going to say our favorite flick on the count of three. We say it at the same time to see if we hit a match. I do this with a couple of different scenarios, favorite television show growing up, favorite comedy movie, favorite musician, etc. it’s a fun game that makes finding common ground fun and interesting. Don’t fall into her reality when doing this. Be sure to know the answers to the questions you are going to ask her. Say the name of your favorite movie, and if hers is different, say “OMG, I love that movie too.” Then instantly give a reason why or an anecdote that will provide a solid reason for the commonality. What’s even more powerful is if you can get your target to say “OMG, ME TOO!” You can be sure you are creating attraction.

Lastly one of my favorite phrases to re-frame is, “I don’t believe you!” This is a clever device to use in field when getting any type of resistance from a girl. Say a girl says she doesn’t take her top off on the first date. Look at her with a slight smile and say, “I don’t believe you!” Usually you’ll get a look of surprise to challenge her in such a way. If she is defiant she might throw out, “I DON’T!” Simply laugh a little and say, “Look, you don’t even believe you!” This is powerful when it comes to re-framing. I have gotten out of falling into a girls reality with this nifty piece of word gold.

Enjoy these bits of verbal goodness and watch your game go to the next level -Jonny Cruz

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The Perfect Valentine

Are you prepared for the most romantic holiday of the year?

Valentines days is the day that most men dread and most women love.

Fortunately, we have the answer for you:

From the ideal Valentine’s Day gifts to the ideal Valentine’s Day desserts, this guide will cover everything you need to know to have a wonderful time with the girl who said yes to your question, “Will you be my Valentine?”

Valentine’s Day can feel like a potential minefield, especially if you are in the very early stages of a relationship or going on a first date. This article will provide some advice on just how you can successfully navigate the challenges and have a perfect evening.

CHOOSING A MEMORABLE GIFT

Take your time and look for the right gift. Choosing the wrong gift can leave a lasting impression on the person you are dating or interested in.

If this is one of the very first dates, you don’t have to give her a gift. If you invite her out, you should pay for dinner and buy a nice bottle of wine or champagne if your budget allows it (and you choose to drink). If you still feel you must give her something, a small box of chocolates will be appreciated.

Pick out a gift that shows depth. Women know when a man chooses a gift that was not thought out. Being lazy is never a good thing, especially when it comes to Valentines day.

You should know where you are in your relationship and what type of personality the person your dating has. Valentines day is a way to use gifts to heighten romantic situations. Ask yourself the question, “Is this person fun and adventurous and would they enjoy a simple gift like flowers?” “Or is this person risque or wild, someone who would enjoy the fun not-quite-Victoria’s-Secret lingerie?” Knowing the person your with, helps when choosing the right gift to give. Think carefully and you will be rewarded for your well chosen gift.

Note: For those readers who are in a more serious relationship, the above gifts are fine as well, but only as a bonus, not the main gift. When it a long term situation, be sure to put some real thought and effort into getting something personal that you know your woman would appreciate.

THE DATE

Choosing the right gift was just the beginning. Now its time to plan your date. Take a moment to realize that women take longer to arouse than men. Start the date hours in advance by texting her enticing text messages, telling her that you are looking forward to seeing her tonight.

You are the exception to the rule. This is the Valentines day you are going to get right. Any guy out there can give flowers and chocolates, and plan a simple dinner. But you are not any guy. You are the guy that made all the right plans. Now you are going to be the guy with all the right moves.

Be creative. Do not be like every other guy. Instead of typical roses, buy her orchids. This is Valentines day, and you are the exception to the rule.

THE PERFECT DINNER

Valentines Day is the perfect holiday to bring women over to your house. Tell her that you have something romantic planned. Once she agrees, bring her over and take the romantic aspect of Valentine’s Day to a whole new level.

Cooking is one sure fire way to amp the overall attraction and enjoyment of the night. In choosing foods to serve for a Valentine’s Day celebration, keep in mind the textures, and the aromas of certain foods.

Gift, done. Date, in the bag. Meal that you cooked, easy. Now it’s time to take it to the next level by serving her dessert. Nothing makes a woman go crazy like a man who knows how to feed a woman sweets.

Chocolate bars, marshmallows and graham crackers! You can rarely go wrong with making S’mores in the microwave. Even better, cook them over a fire. They’re easy to make, taste great, and are just messy enough to provide finger licking opportunities.

Chocolates will stimulate a woman sexually, so use them wisely. The sexiest thing about chocolate is its taste and its unique melt-in-your-mouth quality. Try a bowl of strawberries and dipping chocolate. This will be amazingly fun and exciting. Make sure you have extra melted chocolate for finger painting. The body is a bare canvas.

TURN UP THE ROMANCE

After the meal, the time comes for your final surprises. Some of this stuff can be pretty intense – so unless you have been seeing each other a while, use these moves sparingly and wisely. You are about to blow her mind and make this a night she will never forget.

A classic way to turn up the romance is with a nice and simple body massage. A massage is one of the best ways to make a person more comfortable and ignite the romantic vibes.

Take time before Valentines Day to plan ahead. A well planned out Valentines Day will be remembered for a long time.

Neil Strauss and his Stylelife Academy, have the tools to make you a master pick up artist by teaching you how to get the girl you have always wanted by mastering how to put on the perfect Valentines Day!!!

The Five Qualities To Obtain That Will Transform Your Life

The stares. The complements. The feeling of empowerment. These are the feelings you get when you get a new haircut. People look at you different and treat you different when you feel better about yourself.

She couldn’t put her finger on it, because “it” was so much more than a simple hair cut. She had witnessed me go from the busboy that silently cleaned the tables to the top server in the place who was making hundreds in cash tips a day and was secretly dating the hot manager after work.

I seemed to be shining with an inner confidence that bestowed me with the energy of a permanently fresh haircut. And the best part about this was that the improvement techniques I was using were freely available to anyone who wanted them.

Persistence and dedication are the only tools you are going to need to achieve results. Listed below are 5 guidelines that will help you attain your goals and overcome obstacles.

TIP #1: Embrace the Pain

Leave you ego at the door. When you take on a new path in life, remember it is the “journey,” not the “destination,” that is important. When you embark on this new voyage remember that it is okay to fall. Embrace failure, push past the pain, and keep trying.

Quoting Arnold Schwarzenegger, “The last three or four reps is what makes the muscles grow. This area of pain divides a champion from someone who is not a champion. That’s what most people lack, having the guts to go on and just say they’ll go through the pain no matter what happens.”

Vow to push past the pain, and you will be one step closer to achieving greatness.

TIP #2: Take Off the Lid

Your biggest enemy is yourself. Next time you are in a new situation, be award of what your inner dialog is saying. People impose limitations on themselves anytime they start something new out of fear. Controlling your inner dialog by changing what you tell yourself, can vastly change they way you react to a new situation.

Its up to you. If you believe it, you can achieve it.

ACTION #3: Understand that Obstacles are Part of the Journey

How bad do you want it? Once you come to the understanding that failure is part of the process, be ready to fail. You can only fail upward. It all depends on how bad you want something.

They are made to keep all of those who don’t want it badly enough OUT. You however are the exception. You will find a way to continue forward and make it past that wall.

TIP #4: Be a Beginner and Be an Expert

Always be humble, you are never too advanced to learn something new. Always be confident, know you are worthy of even the highest level of secret information.

When working at developing any skill, bear in mind you are never above the fundamentals, yet keep your ears perked for expert level tips as well. Keep an open mind and be ready to learn at every opportunity.

GUIDELINE #5: Dream BIG

Yes, setting reasonable goals for yourself that you know you can achieve and incrementing those goals into small chunks. That is important for the average person…BUT the superstar must strike the perfect balance. Remember today’s second tip, you cannot limit yourself.

Take a moment and ask yourself “What did I want to be when I grew up?” Did you answer an astronaut or professional sports player? You need to reactivate the dreamer part of your personality.

Dream big. Bring your dreams into reality. Unlock your hidden potential. You can and you will.

Five Ways to Improve Your Life

Not everyone is given an natural skill, but you must have the drive to reach your goal. Check these five things to begin:

TIP #1: Embrace the Pain

As you journey towards your goal, there will be things to overcome that may slow you down. Never give up. You will be a stronger person in the end.

To quote Style, who was quoting Arnold Schwarzenegger, “The last three or four reps is what makes the muscles grow. This area of pain divides a champion from someone who is not a champion. That’s what most people lack, having the guts to go on and just say they’ll go through the pain no matter what happens.”

Make the personal vow to embrace that pain right now and you will be one step closer to superstardom.

TIP #2: Take Off the Lid

The vast majority of limitations are self-imposed. Carefully monitor your own thoughts. As you will see in time, once you stop questioning what you can and cannot achieve, you will frequently find yourself performing feats that you never thought possible.

TIP #3: Understand that Obstacles are Part of the Journey

Randy Pausch, famous for his Last Lecture, stated that walls you encounter in your lifetime are their for a reason.

They are made to keep all of those who don’t want it badly enough OUT. You however are the exception. You will find a way to continue forward and make it past that wall.

TIP #4: Be a Beginner and Be an Expert

The master is always open to learning and reexamining the foundations of a given skill. Don’t shut yourself out if tasks seem too easy and make sure to keep your ears open for the more skilled lessons. Be on alert as these priceless opportunities can arise at any moment.

Tip #5: Dream BIG

Make short span goals that build to your long term goal. You will feel more accomplished which will help you work harder to reach the big one! Refer to earlier tip #2… Reach as high as possible and you will surprise yourself everytime.

Ask right now, “What did i want to be when I became an adult?” Was the answer a pro basketball player or scientist? Bring back the dreamer inside you.

Now ask, what do you dream about now…dreaming is the first step to making them real. You will. And you can!