Discover The Humor Women Love

It is common knowledge that women love men with a great sense of humor and that can make them laugh.

But why is humor so important to women?

Cause when you make her laugh her body releases hormones called Endorphins.

Remember that women are much more emotional and these hormones give her a natural high sensation. A sensation that women love. The same sensation that she gets from chocolate and you know just how much women love chocolate.

But you need to realize that not all humor is going to be amusing to women and failing to be the right kind of funny could very easily be sabotaging your dating game.

Note that no woman wants a clown; not in public and definitely not in private (unless she is into some weird fetish). And that brings up an important question that you must answer:

“What Humor Do Women love?”

Now unless you have a career in stand-up comedy, then it is wise to avoid generic jokes from joke books and comedy shows.

Let me explain…

The reason to avoid those jokes is because you do not want to appear like a clown or a comical character in any way, shape or form.

And appearing like a clown or comical character is the image that rehearsed jokes will create for you.

Rehearsed jokes only work in a monologue (a stand up routine or comedy show) and not in a dialogue (conversations with women). If you try those jokes in a dialogue you will end up looking starved for attention and a bit of a social clown.

And so the kind of humor that you should learn is a mixture of wit and self confidence.

The reason that this combination works like gold is simply because having a sense of wit reveals a high level of intelligence whereas it is no secret that all women love confidence in men. Some dating gurus have coined this amazing kind of humor as ‘Cocky Humor’.

Wit + Self Confidence = Cocky Humor

Now please note that there is a fine line between ‘Cocky Humor’ and plain old arrogance. Learning how to tread that line requires some experience but that isn’t hard to acquire.

Now what you will find yourself struggling with is letting yourself be confident enough to be ‘Cocky’.

Why? Because ‘Cocky Humor’ requires a lot of self confidence.

Let me explain this to you….

When you use ‘Cocky Humor’ you will have to be confident enough to be able to tease her, no matter how beautiful she is. While at the same time being charming enough to communicate a playful and good nature behind your bold words.

‘Cocky Humor’ is never spiteful. It is always playful and witty and that is what makes it fun for women. It communicate to her that you are both intelligent and confident… which are both traits that women love in men.

Want to find out more about Cocky Humor, then visit Ngure Kanjumba’s site on how to Approach Beautiful Women and date them.

How To Talk To A Girl On The Phone

If you are to date successfully, you’ll need the ability to communicate well. The ability to communicate will directly effect your ability to attract women.

And one of the most important forms of communicating is over the phone; perhaps it’s the most important, even.

Until you start dating someone regularly, and seeing them face-to-face often, your primary tool to keep the bond between the two of you going is the TELEPHONE.

Without speaking to someone on the phone, it’s going to be difficult to create the type of rapport necessary to sustain a relationship.

So having good phone skills is VITAL to success with women!

I speak from experience, that your phone presence can either RUIN you, or make you seem so confident, mysterious, and fun that she can’t WAIT to go out with you.

Here is what you need to know to make a great impression on the phone, and keep her interested in you…

1.) Don’t Be Nervous on the phone!

If you’re nervous talking on the phone, that will cause you to let the conversation stall. She’ll be able to tell if you’re struggling to make chit-chat, and it’ll hurt her impression of you.

The key here is to NOT BE NERVOUS when you call a girl! If you find yourself feeling the nerves before you call, take some time and calm yourself down. Take some deep breaths, listen to some soothing music, and remember that there are plenty of other girls out there if it doesn’t work out with this one.

It’s important to project the right attitude while one the phone. Being (and sounding) confident will always trump nervousness! So allow yourself to have fun and relax!

2.) Be ASSERTIVE When You Talk!

Most people MUMBLE and STUMBLE all over themselves with garbage like: “What’cha been doing?” Nothing bores a girl more than these boring, awkward questions.

If you rely on the girl to lead the conversation, you’re going to find that the conversation will end quickly.

You have to be assertive in the conversation and steer it where you want it to go. Do NOT rely on her to carry this burden!

Have some topics you’d like to talk about before you call up. This will give you an idea of what to talk about if the conversation stalls. If she mentions something that interests you while talking, ask her about it in more detail.

Be active in making the conversation!

3.) Have a purpose to call when calling.

Calling just for idle banter is a waste of time. While speaking with a woman should be fun, there should be a motive for you to call her.

Why is this important? You don’t want her thinking she’ll have to chat for 2 hours every time you decide to call her up.

Know what goal you want to achieve with the phone call before you start dialing! Is it to set up a date? Is it to touch base? Is it to strengthen your rapport?

Having a reason for calling her will help you stay focused on your end goal.

4.) Don’t ask, instead, INVITE!

When talking to a girl, the urge is to give her the last decision on what to do.

Saying something like “Are you busy Friday?” might sound reasonable to you, but you’re still putting the burden on her to find the time to hang out with you!

Whenever you push a girl over the phone to meet up, you’ll want to frame things as though you’re inviting her to join you, rather than having her choose how to meet up with you.

And trust me – there IS a difference!

Saying “Would you like to hang out tomorrow night?” is much different than “I’m going to this really awesome bar tomorrow night to check out a killer band, would you like to come?”

Offering the girl you’re talking to opportunities will motivate her to say “yes” more than if you asked her if she’d be willing to spend time with you.

5.) Be congruent with who you are!

When talking on the phone, there’s an issue that comes up where we are different people than we are normally. Maybe we’re a little more outgoing, or engaging, or funny, or whatever.

Keep in mind that in order for a date to be successful, you have to be CONSISTENT about who you are, so the girl can really get to know you.

Putting on an act while talking over the phone is a bad idea. Though you aren’t face to face, you still shouldn’t purposefully misrepresent yourself, and it can be detrimental to boot. If you act more genuine, it WILL show and your chance of success will be much higher.

Chatting on the phone is an unfortunate, albeit necessary, part of the dating game. Though you might not like to do it, and many don’t, you’ll find that doing it well will help you in the long run. You’ll find many more women open to hanging out with you, that normally wouldn’t be.

Ice-Breakers And Conversation Starters With Women

The sad fact is that most guys are afraid of approaching women and starting conversations.

It’s funny, even the term “ice breaker” conveys this notion. You are having to warm a woman up. That assumes that they are going to react coldly to your approach.

In fact, most men just assume that girls don’t want to talk to them! They feel like they are “bothering” a girl by approaching her, and chances are, they’ll get rejected.

The truth is that most women are actually open and receptive to being approached by a good man, and are happy to engage in conversation!

This may go against what most men think, but it’s the honest truth. As long as a guy isn’t desperate, needy, or creepy, he can successfully approach and start a conversation with almost any woman.

Just remember that most women will respond somewhere in the range of “neutral” to “positive” if you say almost ANYTHING to them. In fact, you have to work really hard to get a bad reaction from a woman!

Surefire ways to get a negative reaction:

1.) Starting off the conversation scared. If you are scared, they are going to get nervous too, and will eventually just want to get away from you. Confidence is key.

2.) Using bad pick up lines. They may seem funny on TV and in the movies, but the fact is that bad pick up lines are bad for a reason!

3.) Being too aggressive. Women certainly don’t like being objectified. If you cross the line with your flirting, you’ll insult her.

As long as you can keep from doing these three things, you’ll be safely in the “neutral” to “positive” range with a woman.

This means – whatever you say to start the conversation will more than likely work! Just be sure you ask an engaging question, and not just a “yes or no” question. Also, stay away from the boring topics all guys use, like “What’s your name?” and “What do you do?”

Instead, try asking her opinion on something. What you’re wearing for instance. Girls love to give advice. Ask her about something timely that’s going on in pop culture – what celebrity is dating who? Ask her about the arts – I have yet to meet a girl who doesn’t like music!

Just make sure that whatever you ask the girl will lead into a deeper conversation, because that will help you break through any hesitancy to talk.

That should get you started.

The point is that there’s a way to put yourself in a situation that naturally and easily sparks conversations. You just need to be ready when it happens.

And if the girl doesn’t want to talk to you, don’t sweat it! Keep trying until you find one that does. But you’ll discover that most girls are open to talking to you about anything.

Keep working on this, and you’ll get past the anxiety of talking to attractive women.