Shyness Kills Nice Guys With Women

I was talking to a friend of mine who sees himself as a “nice guy”, and he had a bit of a confusion about women, nice guys and confidence.

He basically told me “You know, I get this whole thing about confidence, is that really why women don’t like nice guys?”

My answer to him? Yes of course! A very firm and solid yes!

It is all about the shyness. I have a really shocking revelation to you. Women are literally blind to male shyness. I mean between two guys who are identical, except one is shy, the shy one will get as much as ten times worse results with women.

1) Women don’t see shyness in men

The guys online who claim that women hate shy guys completely misinterpret things. Its not that women hate shy guys… Its that women don’t even know guys can be shy or have issues or fear.

When you are shy, you actually end up acting in ways she misinterprets as being arrogant, jerk-like and cold. She literally doesn’t know its possible for a man to be shy around her. She’s too busy worrying about her own insecurities. So when you don’t ask her out due to shyness, she blames herself, never even assuming you might be shy.

2) All dating requires both parties to play the courtship ritual

Yes, just like animals, we too have a mating ritual. This ritual requires that males do certain things, and women do others. Shyness screws up this ritual on both sides, but mostly the male side.

This ritual presumes that males show sexual interest in females. Nice guys however don’t do this due to shyness or lack of confidence.

Nice guys don’t show direct, sexual interest in women, and they tend not to initiate the romantic process or bring it forward.

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Tricks and Techniques in Understanding A Woman’s Body Language

When you go on a night out with your buddies – it could be that you are simply out to have a good time. But if you are single and the situation presents itself that there’s a possibility for you to hook up with a beautiful woman, why pass up the chance? Another scenario is when it is your specific purpose to meet members of the opposite sex and perhaps get an invitation by the end of the night. No matter which of these categories you fall under, there are certain skills that you need to learn so that you can unleash the Casanova in you.

Check out the latest clubs and bars. This is precisely where women go to hand out with their girl friends, meet men and simply have a good time. This is a good a place as any to discover the inner Lothario or Casanova in you – and practice your dating skills. If you feel like you have yet to master the art of reading the most subtle hints which will tell you if a woman is interested in you or not – then it is high time to harness your body language reading skills.

Since we are talking about harnessing your dating skills here, the one thing that you need to watch out for are the non-verbal clues as to whether she is interested in you or not. It’s time to ditch those cheesy pick-up lines and look for ways to be really interesting and leave a lasting impression.

Once you have your eyes on your target, you can use your dating skills and practicing your charm. There is no worse scenario than having a woman walk out on you once you approach her – probably because of how you appear or what you said. This is precisely the reason why you need to learn about dating psychology 101 – which is all about understanding her body language.

Casanova Tactics on How to Understand Her Body Language

If you would like to bring out the Casanova in you and learn how to actually understand a woman’s language, there are non-verbal cues that you need to look for. More often than not, women use subtle cues to lure men into their ‘trap’ – which pretty much means that they are interested. To help you out, here is a quick list of some non-verbal cues that Casanovas like you need to watch out for:

Leaning over – “It’s okay for you to talk to me”. When a woman leans over you when she is trying to make a point or when listening to what you have to say – especially if it is not that crowded in the bar – it means that she is comfortable enough for you to prolong the conversation. This is the time that you can use your Casanova skills and charm the heck out of her.

She establishes eye contact. Another sign that you have managed to capture a woman’s attention is when she establishes eye contact and holds your gaze for more than five seconds. That is a sure sign that she would agree to dating you – and if you are lucky enough – she might even invite you to her place by the end of the night.

Combined body language and subtle hints – “You can invite me for a nightcap.” Some men are simply lucky in this department. If she flirts with you right back, initiates physical contact and reacts positively to your verbal and physical overtures, then that is a sign that she is thinking along the lines of tangling the sheets with you.

So what are you waiting for? If you feel that you have used enough of your Casanova charm and dating skills to get her to agree and go out with you or go home with you by the end of the night – there is absolutely no reason why you should say no to the invitation, is there? Just remember to pick up on her subtle hints, listen attentively to what her actions and words are trying to say – and you should be all set in mastering the art of reading a woman’s body language. After that, you can either ask her to go out with you sometime, or expect her to say yes to your invitation for a nightcap.

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The #1 Thing That Women Find Irresistible

So you know that when you meet a woman it’s very important you show her you are different than the average guy. In fact that’s one of your biggest goals is to rise above all the other creepy, timid, boring or just plain average guys she meets on a regular basis. Some guys seem to take the whole “being different” thing a bit too far and try to come up with all kinds of wacky outfits when they go out, or go out of their way to try to convince a woman they are a true original somehow.

Separating yourself from other men is not about wearing a leopard skin cowboy hat when you go out. That’s outdated tricks of a pickup artist and you’re going to end up looking childish. Though there are many things to consider when you first approach a woman for the first time, here is what I think is an extremely important trait you need to show her:

1. Have a passion

Women like men with a passion. More than money or looks actually. Of course some might care about your wallet or want to date a male model, but most women would rather meet a man who has something he cares deeply about and is striving toward. It’s not so much success as it is ambition. In fact most women would admit that a man who has something more important than her is actually very attractive. This is a fact. No woman respects a man who would set aside his purpose or mission for a woman.

So when you meet a woman you need to express your interests to her with enthusiasm. Never be ashamed for what you believe or enjoy. Act as if you believe everyone is as interested in the topic as you are. People cannot help but respect someone who is 100% committed to an idea. Don’t make any excuses for your interests. If you do I call that value-seeking and no woman is attracted to a value-seeking man. The very enthusiasm you have for something is exactly what is going to bring an amazing woman into your life.

Bruce teaches men from all ages and walks of life how to successfully meet and date women. Be sure to sign up for his free crash-course attraction video or check out the Real World Attraction blog for more information.