A Jedi Mind Trick For Capturing Any Girl’s Interest

The collective male’s attempt at piquing a woman’s interest runs the gamut from demonstrating a lightning-quick wit and sharing interesting stories about himself to doing magic tricks like a clown out of Barnum & Bailey’s circus.

But more often than not, her eyes wander to her cell phone and then meander to the people behind him.

In fact, just about everything in her environment seems to enthrall her except for him, causing a billion and one insecurities to snake into his mind, such as…

1). She must think I am ugly as sin.

2). Does she find me as boring as Velveeta cheese?

3). Do I have the personality of a houseplant?

4). Did I forget to wear deodorant?

5). Is my ego going to be an obituary in tomorrow’s paper?

And if he’s bitter, he might think: She’s like a warm toilet seat – some guy was there before me, another will be there when I get up.

Like a hard working mule, he takes one last crack at making conversation.

But, alas, she stings him with, “It was nice meeting you but I have to go.”

In retrospect, he may think: Damn! That fall-asleep boring conversation piece took the pickup to a crippling halt. It was like the one unlucky drink that shoves a wavering alcoholic off the wagon. I should have never used it.

Most of us have experienced something along these lines.

Many of us have thought: If I only had more interesting things to say, do, or show women, my outcome with them would be completely different.

Although there may be a speck of truth here, most great orators, politicians, and salesmen will tell you, “The content of what you say is far less important than how you say it.”

I’ve seen comedians put an audience in stitches one night yet bomb the next. While the standup routine they used was exactly the same on both nights, their delivery was completely different.

For this reason…

You won’t learn any interesting conversation pieces, cute lines, or fall-on-the-floor-laughing jokes in this article.

Instead…

I’m going to teach you a communication secret that captivates women.

But before I go on, I want you to make me a promise (and, as you’ll see in a few minutes, this promise is for your own good)…

No matter how boring you think you are (even if you think you’re more boring than a 90 year old woman living in a nursing home), I want you to promise me that you won’t change the content of what you say to women for one week.

Here’s why…

I want you to see how adding just this simple secret to what you currently do and say when interacting with women can dramatically increase your success.

In school, you’re taught to finish a thought or idea before moving onto the next. Great advice if you want to plunge women into a narcoleptic stupor.

But if you want women to hang onto your every word, you need to break this crippling habit and start using nested loops.

A nested or open loop is when you start an idea, thought, or story, and instead of finishing it, you move onto something else. In other words, you keep the loop open.

Whenever the human mind is presented with an open loop – unfinished idea, thought, or story – it seeks closure.

Open loops are a form of what I call “tension loops” because they create unresolved emotional tension in a woman.

Even if a woman finds you as interesting and attractive as a sewer rat, the open loop unconsciously compel her to hang onto every word that pours out of your lips and emotionally drives her to see you as a valuable Prize.

Because she seeks resolution to the tension you’ve sparked in her mind and knows that you can release the tension, she perceives you as having value and heeds close attention to everything you say.

Imagine a slovenly bum and a high maintenance babe crossing paths. The bum makes a tragic try at conversation with her by saying, “Hello. My name is Jack and I am homeless. Let me tell you about how I became homeless.”

Chances are, she’d have no interest and scurry off because she finds him aesthetically repulsive, possibly scary, and of little value.

But if he fired an open loop at her, such as, “You know what they say about women with green eyes?” he would probably spark unresolved tension in her body. She’d feel a yen for emotional closure. Closure only he has the power to bring her.

And bada bing, bada boom…

This vagabond she normally would never give the time of day to piques her interest and has value (or Prizability) in her eyes.

Furthermore, open loops can build sexual arousal…

When you spark emotional tension within the context of flirting with a woman it becomes sexualized in her body.

But there’s a facet of open loops I haven’t mentioned yet…

It’s called the “Zeigarnik effect.”

One of the early contributors to Gestalt psychology Bluma Zeigarnik noticed that waiters remember orders up until they serve the food. Then they forget. This led to the discovery that the mind retains the most information when a loop is open.

How does this help you? A woman will probably remember everything you tell her between opening up a loop and closing it.

I want to share with you a powerful application of open loops I learned from watching politicians…

Oftentimes, when politicians are asked a question, they skirt around it for several minutes, talking about almost irrelevant topics, before directly addressing it. This keeps the listener in suspense.

How can we apply this to seduction and attraction?

Here’s an example…

When most men meet a woman they utter their name and then shake the woman’s hand. Usually that’s it. The interaction is over.

An hour – or even a few minutes – later she probably won’t remember his name or anything about him.

Instead, when a woman asks me my name I use an open loop.

I may say,

“When I was a kid my mom told me that she and my dad originally named me Arete, which means all the qualities that make up someone with good character.

And I said, ‘Wow, mom… that’s awesome! Why didn’t you keep the name?’

And she said, ‘Well honey, you’re lucky we didn’t name you Arete because it’s the name of a goddess from Greek mythology.

But we didn’t really give a crap about you having a female name.

The real reason we didn’t name you Arete was that our dog was named Arete – we really loved the name.

And on the day you were born our dog was hit by a car. When we looked at you, we didn’t want you to remind us of the dog. So we named you Josh instead.’”

In lieu of giving her the instant gratification of learning my name I’m using an open loop. This builds unresolved tension inside her body.

Her unconscious mind seeks to bring closure to this loop, inciting her to hang on to my every word.

Had I just told her my name from the get go, she might have judged, “This average looking guy probably lives a boring life,” and then moved onto another man.

But by using an open loop, I had an opportunity to demonstrate that I come from cultured people, have a sense of humor, tell great stories, and possess value (or Prizability).

Plus, due to the Zeigarnik effect, she will remember that I was the guy almost named Arete.

Josh Lubens, a dating coach, write under the pseudonym Swinggcat and has been teaching men how to attract women for the last decade. Visit his website if you’d like to get a world class education on how to attract women.

Discover How To Meet Women

Do you want to know where to meet women or what you should do?

Do you not know where to find the right woman?

Looking for the right place to find the girl of your dreams?

Buddy, you’re in luck as this post was made for you!

I hear many guys asking this question, but they just neglect the basics and forget that they have to alter their lifestyle so they meet women. I know this sounds hard to listen to at first, but keep reading. If you always do the same things over and over again, you’re just going to get the same result!

This is the same with dating! This question is for the dudes wanting to know how to meet women the right way. What steps are you taking in your own life so you do meet girls? Have you been really putting effort in making yourself available? Was the answer no, if so you would have effectively answered your own question. Actively go and look for women to converse with!

Yes, yes, you have things to do and you are busy. But then again, who nowadays doesn’t have things going on in their own life? There is not one person who is not busy. But my friend, that reason in itself is not good enough for you to not go out and meet girls. If you are genuinely interested in improving your dating life, then my friend you have to make an active effort and get your self to places where you will meet women you desire.

We are talking about your future here, and the rest of your life so it’s important. I agree, this is a lot of work and you need to do alot to make things happen, but that’s life.

I know what I just wrote sounds like common sense, but I just had to say it!

How To Flirt With A Silver Tongue: For Men, Part 2

If you have her talking already, here is another important piece of the puzzle: turn taking!

Here’s an example of why this is important to know: you are speaking with a nice young woman, and it appears to be going well. You keep talking, and then her eyes wander. Soon, the conversation just winds down, and she’s gone. So what happened there?

It could be a bunch of things, but perhaps the most common mistake that men (and women) make is lack of recognizing the tempo of conversation, and that they need to take turns. The vocal inflection of another person will indicate WHEN it is time to talk.

Too often, people who are frightened of speaking, when finally given the chance, will tend to blabber like there is no tomorrow. Understandably so – it’s NICE to have someone paying attention to you.

But true rapport and conversation isn’t like this. And after time, a blabbermouth will eventually run people off.

In a recent article, I wrote about vocal signals, one of them being the change in intonation when finishing a sentence, indicating it’s time for the other person to speak.

You MUST learn these signals. Look at it from the outside – have you ever met a person with the speaking eloquence of Oscar Wilde, witty and sharp tongued, yet was completely despised because NO ONE could get a word in edge wise?

On the opposite end of that, you can end up being worse – the guy who puts ZERO effort into any conversation, making the other person do all the talking by showing no interest.

Both these types are bad – so take effort not to be one of them!

So how do we avoid this? By allotting equal time for each person. You should speak the same amount of time as the other person.

Most of the time, a pause is a sufficient signal. But it isn’t always the case. In the earlier articles I wrote about in the nonverbal section, there are some nonverbal cues that will allow us to see when it’s time.

The first is eye contact – the woman might glance away while finishing the sentence. As well, there is the matter of rising and falling intonation – an intonation change will indicate, as well, that they are finished speaking. Listen also for a drop in volume at the end of the sentence – it’s the final clue.

So we have these cues: length of their turn, pause, intonation at the end of the sentence, eyes turning away at the end of the sentence, and a drop of volume. If any of these happen in combination, it’s usually a good sign that it is your turn to speak.

When you are taking turns, try to get EQUAL lengths of time between you and the other person. The end result? You will come across as a fantastic conversationalist!

Coming up in a later article, I’ll get into the subject of content when it comes to talking with others!

What To Say When Flirting, Part 1

In the last series of articles I covered nonverbal flirting techniques, and showed the various ways we transmit our attraction without speaking. Let’s talk about words now!

First, some good news and bad news. The bad news is that women, in general, are FAR better in regards to verbal communication that men, on average.

The good news? When it comes to flirting, verbal communication makes up, at most, less than ten percent of the equation! By that I mean that, altogether, it doesn’t matter so much what you are saying.

Let’s go deeper into this though. You can blow it with words, easily. But you can also REALLY learn to communicate well with them, to the point where you can master it as well as any woman.

The key is to learn to the unwritten rules governing verbal communication. By obeying these rules, you will appear to be more spontaneous, as your conversations will run smoother, but it will take practice.

Think of the situation as trying to learn how to drive a stick shift. You might switch gears poorly at first, as expected. But after awhile, it becomes far more smooth and seems automatic.

If you practice, you will also gain a huge advantage over those that don’t try and learn the rules of communication. Most don’t realize the importance, which is a shame, as they tend to sabotage and frustrate themselves.

The rules are pretty simple, and they govern certain areas. Let’s look at the first area, which happens to be, perhaps, the MOST difficult of all of the areas for men – the opening line.

OPENERS:

I’m sure you’ve been in this situation before: You see a pretty girl, and start walking over to her, then FREEZE when you realize that you have NOTHING to say to her!

It’s frustrating, to say the least.

Well, here’s some good news. What I wrote earlier about the nonverbal part being more important than the verbal part of flirting? It still holds true here.

In fact, the best general opener is, often times, lines that can easily be recognized as openers!

Say if you just were to say “Nice weather we are having, huh?” It’s pretty obvious what you are up to. Now, if the other party is interested, the response should be positive regardless.

This can help take some pressure off you, and give you an idea of how to interpret your success. By trying to be clever, or indirect, you might just wasting time on trying to pull off a great “performed” opener.

How you say the opener will once again ring as more important than the content. If you intone the weather question as a true interrogative, well, that might just sound funny. Stating it as a statement is far more direct and shows assuredness.

The response is how you measure the success at your attempt to communicate. Positive, open responses show a willingness to continue. A poor response, such as a monotone answer, or worse, a no answer, will tell you that it didn’t work and your efforts might be better appreciated elsewhere.

Making a comment about the weather is useful for outdoors. If you are inside, find something that you can make a comment about. Use your imagination for this. Is it hot in there? Crowded? Empty? Simple observations are easy enough.

Essentially, you want to make an observation about what is going on, etc.. Now, this isn’t the only way to open, but from experience I can tell you it’s fairly easy and doesn’t require you to pull off a joke. For more variations on how to do this, be sure to check out my website.

It’s also quite standard. People know it and are used to such a thing. It’s not intrusive or threatening so it can easily. It’s not demanding either – it allows the woman a way out.

Now, if you were to pose it as actually demanding an answer, like “What do you make of this weather?”, it puts her a bit on the spot. She doesn’t want to be rude, nor does she want to e roped in. And that question demands an in depth answer, so essentially that is what you are doing.

Some social contexts allow for more variations – a sporting event is an example, as well as hobbies, business, school. You can comment on those things, asking the woman what she thinks of the situation, the team, etc.. Just use the interrogative formula above, and it becomes rather easy.

The varying answers to the question indicate how she is responding to you. The positive response, nonverbally, will be coupled with some verbal cues: personalization, length of response, and questioning.

With length, watch to see how long a response you get from her – if it’s the same length or longer, that’s a good sign. Shorter, coupled with negative body language, is generally bad.

In personalization, she’ll use the word “I” or “me” in the sentence, is another good sign – such as “Yes, I think they’ll win it all this year.” is good – she’s willing to engage in the line of questioning.

On top of the personalization, she might respond with it, AND in the interrogative form. This is saying “please continue to talk”. For example, if asked about the weather, she might say “It is dreary! I thought it would clear up by the afternoon. What have you heard?” This is a wonderful sign, as she’s fully engaged with you.

Most of the time, when such an exchange happens, people dismiss it as just a polite exchange, when in fact it can be so much more. It’s a friendly invitation to open conversation – and by knowing this, you’ll have that leg up from the other guys out there that I mentioned!

The above lines have nothing clever about them. Very simple, time tested and effective. So what about other lines you see bandied about? They ARE useful, but also advanced. They rely on you being able to gauge her response correctly, which takes time. As I mentioned before, check my website for more information on the usage of such lines.

Don’t make the mistake of opening with a flirtation. The end result is normally a cliche, cheesy line. You’ll probably end up a bad story that a girl will share with her friends!

Pay attention to how the simple openers above effect the women you talk to. You’ll get a feel for opening successfully, which opens the path to better success with women!

What Are Good Locations To Meet Girls? Part 1

It should be obvious, but I’ll state it here: Meeting single women is the single best way to improve your love life.

After all – the more women you meet, the greater your chances of finding the right one.

But in order to maximize your success, you need to go to the right places to meet girls.

If you are just focusing all your time and effort on the bar and club scene, you are truly missing out.

Bars and clubs are probably the single, hardest venue to meet girls in that I know of. Mostly because you have a lot of obstacles to contend with there…

1. They’re loud. Typically, bars and clubs like to play very loud music which makes it hard to talk to people.

2. It’s expensive. Typically, after paying for parking, a cover, and a few drinks, you’re already $60 – $100 in the hole, and you haven’t even met a girl yet!

3. Increased Competition. Every guy in a bar or club is on the prowl to hook up with a girl, and you’ve got to content with them.

4. Protection Mechanisms. Women hardly ever go to bars or clubs alone (and if they do, they’re going to meet up with someone). This means that even if you hit it off with a girl, you usually have to content with her friends and hope they don’t pull her away at the last minute!

5. They’re unhealthy. Despite the fact that you usually have to stay up very late when you go to a bar or club, you also have to content with alcohol and cigarette smoke when you do. That’s not to say this is terribly bad, but over time, it can start to wear on you.

Don’t get the wrong impression. I’m not saying you should totally avoid going to clubs or bars to find women.

Just don’t forgo other places and limit yourself to them.

Here are some of my favorite ways to meet women outside of a bar or club scene:

1. Coffee Shops

Coffee Shops are amazing places to meet girls. The atmosphere is laid back and relaxed, and you’ll find lots of people like to hang out in coffee shops and read, study, or do work.

Not only that, but people can be very open in these venues. This makes it much easier to strike up a conversation.

So if you like coffee, and you’re looking to relax a little bit, be sure to hit up the coffee shops occasionally.

2. Book Stores

Book stores are in the same family as coffee shops (heck, nowadays, bookstores typically have coffee shops IN them!).

Lots of women go to book stores to sit around, read books, study, grab a bite to eat, unwind, and even shop for music or magazines.

Like coffee shops, the atmosphere is relaxed, and it’s usually much easier to meet women in these places than it is in a bar.

In the next part of this article, I’ll show you three more great places to meet women!

Where To Find Girls, Part 1

Let’s face it, meeting women is the best way to improve your love life. Particularly, single women.

After all – the more women you meet, the greater your chances of finding the right one.

But in order to maximize your success, you need to go to the right places to meet girls.

If you are just focusing all your time and effort on the bar and club scene, you are truly missing out.

Bars and clubs are probably the single, hardest venue to meet girls in that I know of. Mostly because you have a lot of obstacles to contend with there…

1. They’re loud. Typically, bars and clubs like to play very loud music which makes it hard to talk to people.

2. It’s expensive. Typically, after paying for parking, a cover, and a few drinks, you’re already $60 – $100 in the hole, and you haven’t even met a girl yet!

3. Increased Competition. Every guy in a bar or club is on the prowl to hook up with a girl, and you’ve got to content with them.

4. Protection Mechanisms. Women hardly ever go to bars or clubs alone (and if they do, they’re going to meet up with someone). This means that even if you hit it off with a girl, you usually have to content with her friends and hope they don’t pull her away at the last minute!

5. They’re unhealthy. Despite the fact that you usually have to stay up very late when you go to a bar or club, you also have to content with alcohol and cigarette smoke when you do. That’s not to say this is terribly bad, but over time, it can start to wear on you.

Don’t get the wrong impression. I’m not saying you should totally avoid going to clubs or bars to find women.

I’m just saying you should not LIMIT yourself to meeting new girls in just these places.

Here are two places you can go to meet women that don’t involve the bar scene:

1. Coffee Shops

Coffee Shops are amazing places to meet girls. The atmosphere is laid back and relaxed, and you’ll find lots of people like to hang out in coffee shops and read, study, or do work.

Not only that, but people can be very open in these venues. This makes it much easier to strike up a conversation.

So if you like coffee, and you’re looking to relax a little bit, be sure to hit up the coffee shops occasionally.

2. Book Stores

Book stores are in the same family as coffee shops (heck, nowadays, bookstores typically have coffee shops IN them!).

Lots of women go to book stores to sit around, read books, study, grab a bite to eat, unwind, and even shop for music or magazines.

Like coffee shops, the atmosphere is relaxed, and it’s usually much easier to meet women in these places than it is in a bar.

I have three more places to tell you about, in the next part of this article – keep reading!

A Man’s Guide To Preparation, Goals, And Pick Ups

If your goal is to be picking up women, then don’t let all the movie and TV shows fool you. You don’t have to be a “clown” or a “sleazeball” to effectively pick up a beautiful woman.

The truth is that attracting women can be fun and rather simple. You just need to be prepared for the encounters to be successful.

You can never really know when a pickup is going to go well, but there are ways you can prepare. So here are some steps for success BEFORE you go out picking up women!

When you go to a place where you know there will be attractive women, make the decision that you’re actually going to pick them up!

Too often, guys will go out with no real goal in mind. And guess what? When you have no outcome in mind – you’ll usually end up with NOTHING.

But if you go out with a specific goal, your chances of achieving that goal go up DRAMATICALLY.

It doesn’t matter if it’s as simple as “Talk To One Woman Tonight,” or as ambitious as “Find The Woman Of Your Dreams.”

As long as you have a goal, your chances of picking up a girl will increase substantially.

You don’t even have to be GOING OUT to pick up women. Maybe you’re visiting a food court in mid-afternoon because you’re feeling hungry, and you know you’ll spot at least one attractive woman there who you could see later.

You may or may not succeed in your quest, but you’re much more likely to have a positive outcome if you go with the mindset that you can pull off a successful pickup.

Always take a pen and paper, or at least your cell phone, wherever you go. You’ll need it for when you exchange numbers with women. Be sure to keep a condom with you, too, just in case! Knowing that you have protection on hand is just one more thing that will keep you from chickening out.

Remember: Do Not Give Yourself An Excuse NOT To Pick Up Women!

By giving yourself more reasons to NOT do something, you will effectively make doing that particular thing more difficult.

Let’s face it – you’ve been making excuses not to pick up women every day. How has that been working for you?

I’m guessing poorly.

Listen: Picking up women successfully is about being mentally prepared to engage someone socially.

If you are thinking about all the things that CAN go wrong, if you’re obsessing over everything about yourself that ISN’T attractive, if you’re looking for excuses NOT to try and pick up the girl…

Guess what?

Chances are – YOU’RE NOT GOING TO PICK HER UP!

That is why you simply need to mentally prepare yourself for the pickup. NO EXCUSES!

Visualize a positive outcome. Focus on all you have to offer a girl. Be fun, friendly, and open. But most importantly – TALK TO HER!

Don’t let the opportunity pass you by. Even if you have a “bad feeling” or are nervous, just think of it as a “practice run” to help get you warmed up.

Know your environment. When you meet a girl you like, you’ll want to get together with her soon – preferably the same day, while her attraction for you is still high. Be aware of good places nearby where you can “bounce” to, like bars, coffee houses, lounges, art galleries, or other fun place where you and your “target” can have a change of scenery.

You’ll want to go to a place that’s low-key enough so you can get to know each other better. When you bounce from one location to another, it’s like you’re going on another date. Why wait for another week to pass by to take her on another date so you can build comfort with her, when you know you can do it on the same day?

Have a place in mind where you can become intimate with her. If you live nearby and you can bring her home, so much the better.

Have an excuse to take her home that has nothing to do with lovmaking. You can have a DVD that she’s never seen but has to see, or an exotic drink she’s never tried, or some photos you’ve taken of a place where you’ve been that she’s never seen.

Or you can play her a song that you’ve written. It doesn’t matter, as long as it makes her comfortable enough to come over!

All in all, you need to TAKE ACTION! If you are prepared for success, you can make it happen easier. So stop with the excuses, and go get her!

Where To Meet Women, Part 2

In the first part of this article, I wrote how coffee shops and book stores are superior to bars for meeting women.

There are three other places I’ll get into now – after this, finding beautiful women should be easy!

3. Shopping Centers

Any place women go to shop – like malls or retail outlets – are fantastic places to meet them.

Women will walk around for HOURS looking for bargains, or the latest new fashion, or furniture, or whatever it is they may be in the market for. And the last thing they expect is for anyone to come along and try to pick them up!

This means their defenses are down, and they will be open to meeting people as they shop.

4. Grocery Stores

Hey, everyone’s got to eat, right? Grocery stores can be a gold mine for meeting really fantastic, attractive women – particularly health food stores like Whole Foods Market, which actually has places where you can sit down and enjoy a meal together inside the store.

In fact, more and more grocery stores are moving to a “hang out” environment as they are starting to allow coffee shops to be built into them, in an effort to keep customers in the store longer.

You can usually find great women in grocery stores, particularly after work when many of them are picking up groceries for dinner.

5. The Internet

The last place we’ll get into isn’t a place, and that’s part of what makes it so great. The internet requires no location change, and very little effort to meet women on your part!

All you have to do is find a dating website, create a profile, and start communicating with the women on there.

You already know they’re in the market for romance, and they are actively LOOKING for someone to meet! What could be easier? If you’re not currently doing online dating in conjunction with everything else, you are missing out.

Now, you may be thinking to yourself “I don’t want to have to go to these places just to meet women.”

Well, let me just say: YOU SHOULDN’T HAVE TO!

I never specifically go to a grocery store thinking “I’m gonna pick up a girl.” I go there to buy groceries, and if I see a girl there I want to meet, then I’ll approach her.

This is key.

I make it a point that as I go about my day, I’m spotting opportunities to meet new people, because you just never know when you’ll meet the right girl.

So I don’t limit myself to the places I described above. No matter where I find myself, I’m looking to meet new women. But in my experience, those are the EASIEST places to do so.

Understand: In order to increase your success, you have to make sure that you’re able to meet girls no matter WHERE you are.

Make it a part of your routine to be on the lookout for chances to meet and chat up desirable women.

Don’t avoid the opportunities – embrace them. You never know where they’ll end up taking you!

How To Date Girls, Part 2

From what I wrote in part one of this article, it’s probably pretty clear how most guys think the wrong way about dating. Let’s look at the right way!

So what does it mean to date a woman?

Simple: Dating is the process of building comfort, strengthening emotional connections, and building attraction!

See, it doesn’t matter where you go, or how much money you spend. All that matters is how you’re able to connect to the woman you’re with and what you can make her feel about you.

That is why so many guys can take a girl on a cheap date and sweep her off her feet, and other guys can drop thousands of dollars on really creative dates and get NOWHERE.

You need to focus on how you can become emotionally connected with her, instead of trying to wow her financially.

Talk about your shared interests. Talk about your passions. Try and figure out what her hopes and dreams are.

Stay away from boring questions like “where do you work?” Instead, rephrase these questions to be fun and interesting, for instance, ask her: “If you could do anything you wanted, and weren’t bound by the laws of space and time, what would you do?”

Most importantly: HAVE FUN!

Crack jokes – even if they’re not good. Have fun. Steer the conversation toward subjects she finds interesting. Be curious about who she is.

But most importantly, don’t shy away from the idea of love making!

Most guys are afraid to bring the subject up. But hey, you have to build up some tension for there to be attraction, so I’d recommend it.

So have some fun with it – crack jokes about it, flirt with her, and don’t be afraid to bring out the bad boy side of yourself. She’ll like this, believe it or not, and without it, you will probably not make it to the next level with her.

What People Do To Meet Each Other, Part 2

You’ll be taking a huge risk when meeting a woman if you don’t use a decent opener. You need one to:

1. Get her to talk to you

2. Keep her talking

Maybe what you say will get her to respond with a “Yes or no” answer. If that’s the case, where do you go from there?

Maybe what you have to say will get her to explain something to you, but will it really engage her in conversation? Will she continue to talk to you so you can establish that “trust and comfort” foundation you’ll need to get her information?

These are the factors you have to take into account when you go about meeting a woman. Here are some examples of openers you want to avoid:

“Do you know where X is?”

“Do I know you from somewhere?”

“That’s a nice X you’re wearing.”

“Do you come here often?”

The list goes on. But if you look at all those statements above, they don’t really lead anywhere. They’re not engaging, they’re not interesting, and they will not help you get to know the woman you’re talking to any better.

Here’s a good opener for you to “test out” this weekend or whenever you’re going out next. When you see a girl you like and want to meet, walk up to her and ask:

“Hey, just curious, do you read the horoscope?”

See how this opener differs from the ones above? You’re not asking her an ordinary question she hears a million times a day, and there’s an intriguing element to it. Most women are interested in horoscopes and other new-agey stuff, so even if they DON’T read their horoscope, they may be interested in why you’re asking the question.

If she says YES, it is easy to ask her what her sign is and what her horoscope is telling her. This is great because she will be giving you information about herself that you can use to your advantage in the conversation.

If she says NO, ask her if she’s ever checked her horoscope before and then ask her what her sign is.

No matter what she says, always follow up with “Hmmm. That’s interesting”

When she asks “Why?” say “Well, I don’t want you to take this the wrong way, but you know what they say about Pisces (or Aries, or Scorpio, or whatever her sign is)?”

By now she’ll be really interested. Follow up by saying “Pisces (Aries, etc.) women are the most sensual women out there.”

Watch her reaction, and then follow up with a story to get the conversation flowing. Here’s one I use:

“I know this because my ex girlfriend was a Pisces (Aries, whatever), and she was the most sensual woman you’ll ever meet. We used to have so much fun together, doing all sorts of wild things, she was totally open to doing anything. I used to think it was just her, but every Pisces woman I’ve dated has always been really fun. What’s the wildest thing you’ve ever done?”

See how that works? You set it up so that you present her with a role you want her to adopt (being sensual and fun and open to anything), and show it in a positive light. And even if she doesn’t agree with your assessment of her sign, you’re getting her to share with you what wild stuff she HAS done.

One thing leads to another, and you are talking with her!

Typically, you’ll want to have three good openers to use one after another, all with follow-up stories to get the conversation flowing.

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