Women Who Betray Their Men – Why Do They Do It?

Men have little control over whether or not their women step out on them – it’s their perception of the state of the relationship, and not the reality, that motivates them. For whatever reason, once a woman decides that there’s something missing in your relationship, she’s stepped over the line and at that point, her man’s pretty much helpless to stop her. Her cheating will be blamed on you, of course, because you’re the one she’ll hold liable for the failures in the relationship.

Women in relationships want to be reminded that they’re in a relationship. They want to feel cherished all the time, and they want their men to talk with them. When this need isn’t met, they’ll claim that an emotional distance has grown and that the relationship is suffering as a result. What do women want? It’s a question that’s been asked for eons, and whatever answers have been given always seem to fall short. In a relationship, a woman wants to have her sense of worth fortified by her man. If, at the end of the day, she doesn’t feel that sense of worth, she’ll blame her man no matter what he’s actually done. Without the emotional closeness, the relationship’s on rocky ground, and a woman is often likely to step out in search of a new man.

The second reason women will cheat on their men is neglect. That’s reasonable, but it’s still fraught with pitfalls. The man who’s always underfoot, always in his woman’s face, will soon be considered to be clingy: too dependent, too needy, too immature – and too replaceable. She’ll feel confined. On the other hand, however, when a man understands that he’s got to give his woman time on her own to grow, and enhance those things he loves about her, she might decide he doesn’t really care. She might decide he’s neglecting her, and she’ll use that space to find another man.

Most women place great importance on their appearance. Right or wrong, it’s the root of much of their self-esteem, and a man who fails to compliment her on her beauty, especially after she’s spent much time on it, is a man who’s risking his woman stepping out on him. Her self-esteem will be get the reinforcement it needs from another man, she’ll think, because she feels she’s no longer getting that in her relationship – no matter what her man’s actually doing. While most men understand a woman’s need for self-esteem and try to reinforce it, if a woman feels she’s not getting enough attention in this area, chances are good she’s going to step out.

Finally, a woman is likely to cheat on her man if she simply feels bored and needs a change of scene. Like a monkey swinging in the trees who won’t let go of one branch until there’s another to grab, she’s content to go about the motions of staying in a relationship when in reality, she’s already written it off and is looking for a new man. The fact that she’s loath to end her relationship before attempting to form a new one suggests that her new man and her new relationship will probably suffer just as much from her lack of consideration and her immaturity.

No matter why your woman cheats on you, the prospects for a long and enduring relationship together were dim. How can a man continue to love a woman who respects him so little she’ll cheat on him?Any man wants to spend his life with a woman who loves and respects him – certainly not traits of a woman who cheats on her man.

If you found this article helpful and would like to learn more about saving your relationship, check out Why Women Cheat and Reasons for Infidelity.

A Jedi Mind Trick For Capturing Any Girl’s Interest

The collective male’s attempt at piquing a woman’s interest runs the gamut from demonstrating a lightning-quick wit and sharing interesting stories about himself to doing magic tricks like a clown out of Barnum & Bailey’s circus.

But more often than not, her eyes wander to her cell phone and then meander to the people behind him.

In fact, just about everything in her environment seems to enthrall her except for him, causing a billion and one insecurities to snake into his mind, such as…

1). She must think I am ugly as sin.

2). Does she find me as boring as Velveeta cheese?

3). Do I have the personality of a houseplant?

4). Did I forget to wear deodorant?

5). Is my ego going to be an obituary in tomorrow’s paper?

And if he’s bitter, he might think: She’s like a warm toilet seat – some guy was there before me, another will be there when I get up.

Like a hard working mule, he takes one last crack at making conversation.

But, alas, she stings him with, “It was nice meeting you but I have to go.”

In retrospect, he may think: Damn! That fall-asleep boring conversation piece took the pickup to a crippling halt. It was like the one unlucky drink that shoves a wavering alcoholic off the wagon. I should have never used it.

Most of us have experienced something along these lines.

Many of us have thought: If I only had more interesting things to say, do, or show women, my outcome with them would be completely different.

Although there may be a speck of truth here, most great orators, politicians, and salesmen will tell you, “The content of what you say is far less important than how you say it.”

I’ve seen comedians put an audience in stitches one night yet bomb the next. While the standup routine they used was exactly the same on both nights, their delivery was completely different.

For this reason…

You won’t learn any interesting conversation pieces, cute lines, or fall-on-the-floor-laughing jokes in this article.

Instead…

I’m going to teach you a communication secret that captivates women.

But before I go on, I want you to make me a promise (and, as you’ll see in a few minutes, this promise is for your own good)…

No matter how boring you think you are (even if you think you’re more boring than a 90 year old woman living in a nursing home), I want you to promise me that you won’t change the content of what you say to women for one week.

Here’s why…

I want you to see how adding just this simple secret to what you currently do and say when interacting with women can dramatically increase your success.

In school, you’re taught to finish a thought or idea before moving onto the next. Great advice if you want to plunge women into a narcoleptic stupor.

But if you want women to hang onto your every word, you need to break this crippling habit and start using nested loops.

A nested or open loop is when you start an idea, thought, or story, and instead of finishing it, you move onto something else. In other words, you keep the loop open.

Whenever the human mind is presented with an open loop – unfinished idea, thought, or story – it seeks closure.

Open loops are a form of what I call “tension loops” because they create unresolved emotional tension in a woman.

Even if a woman finds you as interesting and attractive as a sewer rat, the open loop unconsciously compel her to hang onto every word that pours out of your lips and emotionally drives her to see you as a valuable Prize.

Because she seeks resolution to the tension you’ve sparked in her mind and knows that you can release the tension, she perceives you as having value and heeds close attention to everything you say.

Imagine a slovenly bum and a high maintenance babe crossing paths. The bum makes a tragic try at conversation with her by saying, “Hello. My name is Jack and I am homeless. Let me tell you about how I became homeless.”

Chances are, she’d have no interest and scurry off because she finds him aesthetically repulsive, possibly scary, and of little value.

But if he fired an open loop at her, such as, “You know what they say about women with green eyes?” he would probably spark unresolved tension in her body. She’d feel a yen for emotional closure. Closure only he has the power to bring her.

And bada bing, bada boom…

This vagabond she normally would never give the time of day to piques her interest and has value (or Prizability) in her eyes.

Furthermore, open loops can build sexual arousal…

When you spark emotional tension within the context of flirting with a woman it becomes sexualized in her body.

But there’s a facet of open loops I haven’t mentioned yet…

It’s called the “Zeigarnik effect.”

One of the early contributors to Gestalt psychology Bluma Zeigarnik noticed that waiters remember orders up until they serve the food. Then they forget. This led to the discovery that the mind retains the most information when a loop is open.

How does this help you? A woman will probably remember everything you tell her between opening up a loop and closing it.

I want to share with you a powerful application of open loops I learned from watching politicians…

Oftentimes, when politicians are asked a question, they skirt around it for several minutes, talking about almost irrelevant topics, before directly addressing it. This keeps the listener in suspense.

How can we apply this to seduction and attraction?

Here’s an example…

When most men meet a woman they utter their name and then shake the woman’s hand. Usually that’s it. The interaction is over.

An hour – or even a few minutes – later she probably won’t remember his name or anything about him.

Instead, when a woman asks me my name I use an open loop.

I may say,

“When I was a kid my mom told me that she and my dad originally named me Arete, which means all the qualities that make up someone with good character.

And I said, ‘Wow, mom… that’s awesome! Why didn’t you keep the name?’

And she said, ‘Well honey, you’re lucky we didn’t name you Arete because it’s the name of a goddess from Greek mythology.

But we didn’t really give a crap about you having a female name.

The real reason we didn’t name you Arete was that our dog was named Arete – we really loved the name.

And on the day you were born our dog was hit by a car. When we looked at you, we didn’t want you to remind us of the dog. So we named you Josh instead.’”

In lieu of giving her the instant gratification of learning my name I’m using an open loop. This builds unresolved tension inside her body.

Her unconscious mind seeks to bring closure to this loop, inciting her to hang on to my every word.

Had I just told her my name from the get go, she might have judged, “This average looking guy probably lives a boring life,” and then moved onto another man.

But by using an open loop, I had an opportunity to demonstrate that I come from cultured people, have a sense of humor, tell great stories, and possess value (or Prizability).

Plus, due to the Zeigarnik effect, she will remember that I was the guy almost named Arete.

Josh Lubens, a dating coach, write under the pseudonym Swinggcat and has been teaching men how to attract women for the last decade. Visit his website if you’d like to get a world class education on how to attract women.

Shyness Kills Nice Guys With Women

I was talking to a friend of mine who sees himself as a “nice guy”, and he had a bit of a confusion about women, nice guys and confidence.

He basically told me “You know, I get this whole thing about confidence, is that really why women don’t like nice guys?”

My answer to him? Yes of course! A very firm and solid yes!

It is all about the shyness. I have a really shocking revelation to you. Women are literally blind to male shyness. I mean between two guys who are identical, except one is shy, the shy one will get as much as ten times worse results with women.

1) Women don’t see shyness in men

The guys online who claim that women hate shy guys completely misinterpret things. Its not that women hate shy guys… Its that women don’t even know guys can be shy or have issues or fear.

When you are shy, you actually end up acting in ways she misinterprets as being arrogant, jerk-like and cold. She literally doesn’t know its possible for a man to be shy around her. She’s too busy worrying about her own insecurities. So when you don’t ask her out due to shyness, she blames herself, never even assuming you might be shy.

2) All dating requires both parties to play the courtship ritual

Yes, just like animals, we too have a mating ritual. This ritual requires that males do certain things, and women do others. Shyness screws up this ritual on both sides, but mostly the male side.

This ritual presumes that males show sexual interest in females. Nice guys however don’t do this due to shyness or lack of confidence.

Nice guys don’t show direct, sexual interest in women, and they tend not to initiate the romantic process or bring it forward.

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Online Dating Makes Your Life Much Easier, Ladies!

In the short life of the World Wide Web, the World has become enamored with being able to instantly find and communicate with someone over the Internet. Dating is no longer left to chance or confined to sweaty nightclubs; both men and women have an ala carte menu of options to choose from.

Ladies can benefit greatly from working in online dating into their romantic quest. Below are three of the benefits of taking your search to the Internet.

Successful Online Dating Requires Good Communication – In order to successfully “woo” someone (worth anything) online, you need to be able to communicate clearly. Knowing that communication is an important requisite in a good relationship, this will give you an idea of your potential suitor’s eloquence. This is better than, say, the grunts and lame pickup lines you may get at a bar. Now, online dating makes it easier for some people to be jerks too, so be ready to deal with extremes.

Less Pressure and More Flexibility – The good news is that for most of the online dating process you don’t ever have to get dolled up, wear makeup or even leave the comfort of your pajamas. Online dating gives women on the go the flexibility to engage in as much or as little communication at any given time. Email correspondence can be sent when you have time. Video mail and text messages allow you to communicate when it’s convenient. Video chats can be scheduled around work schedules. Also, you can avoid awkward first dates by already having something to discuss in person after corresponding for a few weeks.

More Selection, Expanded Dating Pool – Online dating makes the World your dating pool. Where you would normally be constrained to friends, friends of friends, co-workers and people you meet at a local bar, online dating lets you find someone from anywhere in the World. If you like travel and adventure, you could join an International Dating site where you could meet someone from another country.

Don’t Give Out Your Information – “Can I have your email?” “What’s your phone number?” There are questions you don’t have to answer on many reputable online dating sites. Many services offer you private emails, chats and even phone calling features. This way, if you meet someone you don’t click with, you don’t have to worry about them calling you or showing up at your apartment uninvited.

Online dating is the 21st century’s way of telling you that the World is your oyster. Get online and get to searching for your soul mate, no matter where he may be. Be safe and may love find you online.

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Craft Your Very first Love Letter – Tips for expressing Your Feelings

A great way to add romance to any relationship is to say I love you in a manner that is unexpected. The love letter is one of the best ways to go about this.

If he isn’t used to getting love letters from you, then a love letter from the heart will make a lasting impression. The fact that you’ve put time and effort into writing it will mean so much more than a store bought greeting card.

Here are some helpful tips for expressing your love on paper.

1.) The letter needs to be written in two stages. The first is the composition stage.

Editing comes next where you clean up mistakes and grammatical errors. Never edit your letter while composing because it slows down and stunts your writing.

The proper way to compose a letter is to just let your feelings flow. When you talk to someone, you rarely ever stop and edit the words you’re about to say, you just converse. You should emulate this when you write.

Imagine a setting where both of you are together and you’re telling him how much you love him. Write down whatever your imagination says.

Always keep your inner critic silent when you compose. You must actually experience the sentiment that’s being written. That means being in the right mood as you write.

Put on some romantic music when composing. Never concern yourself about corny writing, just record the words as they come.

2.) Try adding a few romantic love quotes. They tend to amplify the emotions of the love letter.

Quotations of love can readily be found on the Internet. Search for “romantic quotes” or “love quotations” on the Google or Yahoo search engines.

3.) Write your letter in another language. This method is over the top and is not required but it enhances the letter.

Try this if you speak a second language or if someone you know can translate. You can give your partner the translation or insist that he do the translation.

4.) A big part of love letters is in how you deliver it to the one you love. Any method involving surprise works best.

Put it inside his briefcase and surprise him at work. Another idea is to slip it in one of his pockets. With practice, you’ll discover that there are a multitude of ways that this can be done.

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The Answer To How To Get My Girlfriend Back

You watched her go away and you might or might not have saw it coming. You have tried to sleep. You have tried to be a normal person, but the break up just doesn’t sit well with you. Part of you just might be saying, there has to be something when it comes to how to get my girlfriend back. If that is something that has crossed your mind, then this article is for you men.

The first thing is that both of you have emotions. Be willing to listen to hers and respect hers. Emotions run wild when two people who love one another break up. So, be ready to face those emotions. If there is blame to be put on you, own up to that blame like a man.

Sometimes, you might have to prove yourself worthy. Think back to what might have caused this to happen. For some men, it’s that they cheated on them. How are you going to prove yourself faithful? Trust is something hard to get back once you have lost it.

Depending on when the relationship ended, you might have to give it some time. Time can heal a lot of things. Time allows a person to calm down. It allows the heart to heal and many more things. So, allow some time to cool off for both of you before you call to try meeting up with her to talk.

You also have to give her some space. By just hounding her and stalking her while trying to get that second chance, you are just making yourself look desperate and just plain stupid. Call her once, plead your case, then give it a while before you call back. It’s that simple. Some men just ruin any second chance that they might have by just trying too much.

The other thing that you have to be ready to do is you have to be ready to make adjustments to your life. Now, we’re not saying that she ws some pure little angel. Again, normally there are problems on both ends, but if she says hey you need to work on this, then you need to work on it. You have to be ready to prove yourself.

The last thing that you need to be willing to do is not only give some time for her to come around, but you need to take the steps of moving on for if she doesn’t come back. The main thing you really need to do is listen if she talks and prove to her that you are trying to change.

These are things that you can do to win her back. If you realize that you are lost without her, we want to assure you that if she does love you, then there is hope. Don’t give up on that hope. Follow these and work on getting her back. Everyone deserves a second chance after all.

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Let Tiffany Taylor’s Guy Gets Girl Ebook Help You Get The Girl

It is inevitably going to happen to you when you are out looking for women. Trying to initiate a conversation with girls is bound to be one of your goals for the night. Wanting to talk to girls is probably one of your goals of the night. Then, you see the girls you want to approach. They are in a group and one girl stands out in particular to you. You have gotten the guts to talk to the girls. Something doesn’t seem right though.

All her friends are very receptive but the one you were focusing on isn’t giving you much attention.

Take a step back. Realize that it’s not the end of the world and that you are her type. The reason she is acting like this is because you focused your attention to her and in turn boosted her ego.

She gets the feeling of importance and now the ball is in her court. She doesn’t want to lose her value her friends see her in so she doesn’t respond as some girl who’s easy as Sunday Morning.

She’d rather keep her value with her girlfriends than show her interest in you. What is the solution to this? Change your approach! It is important to note that this tip comes from Tiffany Taylors Guy Gets Girl ebook.

The Deflection Theory is when you take that interest and attention from the girl you are interested in and focus that attention onto one or more of her girlfriends. By doing so you stop giving her the attention she was getting and is going to start to wonder why you aren’t giving that attention anymore to her.

Wouldn’t you rather prefer to be in this situation where girls are seeking YOUR approval instead if you trying to get THEIR approval.

This is a great technique to bring a challenge to a girl. Girls are intrigued by challenges and welcome them. Use the Deflection Technique to bring more success to your dating scene…

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Learn How To Use Online Dating To Your Advantage!

Online dating is almost a lifestyle for some people. For others, it’s the best way to save time and money when searching for their soul mate. Considering that millions of people use online dating services, it’s impossible not to find someone special. All you have to do is to be patient. Stop wasting your time and use online dating to your advantage! Now it’s easier than ever to find your soul mate.

Are you too shy and scared when it comes about meting someone you don’t like? Well, most of feel the same. This is why online dating should be talking into account by anyone who wants to avoid embarrassing situations and save time. Even if you’re rejected by a potential partner, you won’t lose your self confidence. Just delete the message and start searching for someone else.

First of all do some research. What are the most popular online dating websites? What do you receive as a member? Can you trust the agency? Choose an online dating service with a strong reputation and sign up. As more members it has, as higher are your changes to meet your dream partner. Keep in mind that a reliable agency offers tools that allow the avoidance of unwanted contact and monitors member’s behavior.

Ask yourself what kind of relationship you are looking for. Do you want something serious or just casual dating and pen pals? What kind of partner do you want? Some dating services are free, but it’s advisable to opt for a paid service because it’s much safe. Think about how much you are willing to spend.

Once you sign up, create a strong profile. Say clearly what and who you want to date. Don’t be afraid to have high expectations. Online dating is so great exactly because it allows being honest and writing down everything you have to say. After all, it’s about your personal life. Making the right decision is up to you. Don’t date people you’re not interested in and focus only on those who are good enough for you.

Let’s see what exactly you can talk about with your soul mate. First of all, avoid having a conversation about politics, religion, sexual preferences and former partners. Such topics may lead to a dispute. Pay attention to your virtual partner and don’t be afraid to ask him about personality, marital status and intentions. If there’s something you don’t like, it’s better to give up and look for someone who deserves you.

Don’t give up hoping and learn to use online dating to your advantage. There’s a soul mate for each of us. Think about this and don. ‘t miss any opportunity to find your life partner.

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Get Your Ex Back Even After They Have Moved On

Have you recently ended a relationship? Are you left wondering “Can I get my ex back even after they’ve moved on to another relationship?” Well, you can, so don’t waste time moping or feeling sorry for yourself because even though it’s gone now, doesn’t mean you have lost it for good. Below are some easy steps you can take to get your ex back even if they don’t seem to want to have anything to do with you any more.

1- The first step to getting your ex back is to find a way to convince your ex that they still want you. Unless your ex really really wants nothing to do with you, then there are plenty of things you can do to change their mind.

2- Friendship is one of the most beneficial things you can have at this point. Become a good friend to your ex and show them that you understand them and can have a fun healthy friendship without drama. When the stress of the break up has subsided, there is a very good chance that your ex will realize that they want you back.

3- When talking with your ex, it’s super important that you stay friendly and be nice, but don’t think that means you can’t have a little attitude or make jokes. The goal here is that your ex wants you, but you don’t want them to necessarily think they can have you back right this moment, not just yet. While playing games isn’t the best way to build a good relationship, playing a little hard to get will make your ex much more interested in you.

4- Be sure that while you are playing hard to get, your ex still knows that you are available. Flirting and hanging out with friends is a great idea. After all it’s fun, and it might cause a little jealousy, which will probably help you out. Be sure, though, that you are keeping it safe and easy so that your ex knows that you are still available. If they think you aren’t, they won’t be interested enough to pursue you.

5- Never, ever, ever act desperate. Ever! Did I say that enough? If you act desperate, your ex will underestimate you and start to lose interest. Your goal is to make your ex intrigued, so you want to play it cool so that your ex knows that you are ok with everything that happened between you two and that you’re ready to move on. Acting desperate will cause things to go down hill very fast, and eventually not work out at all. Don’t act desperate.

6- If you catch your ex looking at you, or think your ex is looking at you, look at them out of the corner of your eye with a sort of sidelong glance. This will convey the message that you’re paying attention, but give them a feeling of I see you, but you can’t have me.

7- Bring up the good memories you shared in casual conversation. This will remind your ex about the reasons you were together and how good you were with each other. Don’t bring up bad memories and be sure the conversation doesn’t go that way as that will only bring up past hurt and drive your ex away.

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How To Save A Relationship – 7 Steps You Need To Know

If you’ve been wondering how to save a relationship, below are 7 simple steps you can take to accomplish this, but first a little story. Sean and Lizzy both work hard. Sean works long hours at the office, and Lizzy spends her time tending to the children. Sean doesn’t feel she has time for him, and Lizzy thinks Sean doesn’t have time for her. Can their relationship be saved? Should it be saved?

First off you have to decide if the relationship is worth saving. Most relationships can be saved with hard work, but both people have to decide to be committed to saving it. If one of the parties involved isn’t willing, then not much can be done to save the relationship.

There are plenty of people you pass on the streets every day who stay in relationships because they are convenient, or stay with the marriage because of the kids, but that’s just not enough. The key to how to save a relationship is that both parties have to mutually decide that it is worth saving.

The next thing to do is zone in on the problem or problems in the relationships. One of the biggest issues faced with how to save a relationship is that people come to the conclusion that symptoms are actually problems. This is a common mistake, don’t make it. Focus on the actual problems.

An affair is something that often causes break ups, and most people see it as the problem, but more often than not, the affair is the symptom of the true problem. For example, a lack of true intimacy could be the actual problem. Most of us would look at the situation and say the affair caused the break up, but in actuality it was the symptom of the problem and intimacy was the core problem. If you aren’t able to deal with the real problem, you will be in trouble. You may be able to stop another affair with guilt, but another problem, like pornography addiction, may arise in it’s place.

Your relationship can only be saved when you strip down the symptoms and start to deal with the core issues.

After the real problems have been realized, you have to sit down with your partner and have a conversation. Speak what’s on your mind and listen to them while they verbalize their feelings. Hold your partners hand while you listen to show that even if you’re emotional, you want to reconnect. If your partner brings up something that hurts you, remember that it’s not an attempt to hurt you but an attempt to show that they want to improve your relationship.

For example, if your problem is that you don’t spend time together like you used to, take a weekend getaway or set up a date night each week. Even if the date night is Wednesday, you’re spending time together. Then, you and your partner can take turns thinking up fun and exciting ways to spend your date night.

If communication is your issue, schedule 20 minutes before bed when you turn off the TV, shut down the computer and silence your phone and just talk, just the two of you. And, then take action and do it.

And Finally, you must realize that saving a relationship is a process. Often you will go two steps ahead and take one step back. There will be pain and joy as you move along. Just remember to be quick to apologize and slow to place blame.

Are you in a relationship that’s worth saving? If you are, stay committed to saving it and follow the advice in this article.

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