Confidence: The Key To Success And Women

There are so many books, conventions, and special newsletters out there on the best way to attract women, land the woman of your dreams, and so forth and so on and all of them boil down to one main observation: Confidence.

All else being equal, it’s the assured guy which will win each time all else being equal. That means you want to groom and dress correctly and look after all the other basics from private hygiene to making a good livelihood. The basics will get your foot in the door give you a chance but they are by no means what will seal the deal. That’s the reason why they’re called basics…

But naturally, life isn’t fair it isn’t equal. Folks are not equal. Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses. And confidence goes a long way towards leveling out your weaknesses while highlighting your strengths.

Naturally, confidence itself is a strength. So how it is possible to get it if you don’t have it already?

By practicing. There’s actually no other way. You must unlearn what you have learned about yourself, and about your strengths and weaknesses.

No one is born assured. ( If they are they are just born fortunate. ) But everyone learns some measure of confidence, eventually. You need not join the regiment or Navy or have mystical one-in-a-million experiences ; you just need to practice through selective confidence-building measures that prime your cerebral cortex for success.

Easier said than done, naturally but the harder it is to do, the better it will be once done. Believe that.

And, lest it be mistaken, let it be noted now that confidence is not the same as arrogance, which is sometimes used to hide fear, insecurity, and doubt. And there is no quicker turn-off than arrogance with most women. So learn confidence to avoid arrogance and you can write your own how-to book in the form of your extraordinarily life, a life well lived!

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Shyness Kills Nice Guys With Women

I was talking to a friend of mine who sees himself as a “nice guy”, and he had a bit of a confusion about women, nice guys and confidence.

He basically told me “You know, I get this whole thing about confidence, is that really why women don’t like nice guys?”

My answer to him? Yes of course! A very firm and solid yes!

It is all about the shyness. I have a really shocking revelation to you. Women are literally blind to male shyness. I mean between two guys who are identical, except one is shy, the shy one will get as much as ten times worse results with women.

1) Women don’t see shyness in men

The guys online who claim that women hate shy guys completely misinterpret things. Its not that women hate shy guys… Its that women don’t even know guys can be shy or have issues or fear.

When you are shy, you actually end up acting in ways she misinterprets as being arrogant, jerk-like and cold. She literally doesn’t know its possible for a man to be shy around her. She’s too busy worrying about her own insecurities. So when you don’t ask her out due to shyness, she blames herself, never even assuming you might be shy.

2) All dating requires both parties to play the courtship ritual

Yes, just like animals, we too have a mating ritual. This ritual requires that males do certain things, and women do others. Shyness screws up this ritual on both sides, but mostly the male side.

This ritual presumes that males show sexual interest in females. Nice guys however don’t do this due to shyness or lack of confidence.

Nice guys don’t show direct, sexual interest in women, and they tend not to initiate the romantic process or bring it forward.

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Dating Strategy: Revealing the Top Things which Turn Women Off

There are a lot of possibilities when it comes to why men would find themselves embroiled in the middle of the dating scene. You could have gone from a previous relationship and you’re trying to get back in the game, so to speak. Or, you could be a typical single guy who’s not ready to commit yet so you’re playing the field. No matter which of these categories you fall under, it is important to know which factors turn women off.

Basically, you should be aware of what it is that turns women off. For the most part, it’s the initial impression that you will make to a woman that will be your complete downfall. If you fail to attract her the first time, there’s very little chance that she will take a second glance at you when you approach her because she hardly thinks that you’re a casanova. You should also make sure not to sound too full of yourself, appear too stuffy with your behavior, or leave the impression that you’re looking for a quick lay by the end of the night.

Approaching them while you’re a bit too drunk. This is a mortal sin as far as women are concerned. If you have a baby sister, how do you think you will feel when she gets approached by some random guy who slurs his words and stinks of whisky breath? More than just the safety issue, it’s that feeling of being stalked by a drunk stranger which is the last experience that you would want to give to a woman – especially if she’s hot. [I:http://www.tellh.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/GeorgeAndrews0.jpg]

What you need to do is lay off the alcohol. Sure, you may be in a bar setting and you are nursing a bottle of beer because you’re out to have fun. But this does not mean that you need to gather all your courage from alcohol. A couple of drinks is probably okay, but make sure that it’s only enough to make you loosen up. Never approach a woman when you already reek of alcohol, or if you’re already slurring your words or can’t walk straight.

The sweaty and not-so-pleasantly-smelling guy. Yes, bars are crowded and you need to showcase your moves if you want to meet and start dating a good-looking woman in a club or bar. But just because it’s hot and crowded doesn’t mean that you should allow your clothes to stick to your skin too much – or spray on too much cologne that you’d end up with a too overpowering smell by the end of the night. So lay off on the cologne and make sure to wear clothes that will keep you cool despite all the dancing.

The sloppy dresser. You may not have given this too much of a thought – but when you see a woman looking all nice, hot and primped up when going out with their girlfriends, they looked like that because they exerted the effort. As a guy, you need to return the favor and spend some time grooming yourself, too – and actually spending some time to think about what you’re going to wear. If you do your best to look good and not be the sloppy dresser who turns women off, then you’ll have better chances of having a hottie leave the bar with you at the end of the night.

Lastly – and this is one of the most important parts – work on your conversational skills. Ditch the cheesy pick up lines, it sometimes pays off to use a more straightforward approach. Let the inner casanova in you shine by sharpening up your women attraction skills. When you finally get a woman talking, don’t make it all about yourself and keep the conversation light. Be a bit playful and make sure not to leave the impression that you’re simply out to have someone to go home with by the end of the night.

All in all, learning about the top mistakes that you should avoid when it comes to attraction and dating should be the secret of your success with women. If you want to be in on what more of these techniques are, check out the tips that we will be dishing out on our website. Your level of success will leave more women wanting more of you – so check out our site now at http://casanovasystem.org !

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Discover The Humor Women Love

It is common knowledge that women love men with a great sense of humor and that can make them laugh.

But why is humor so important to women?

Cause when you make her laugh her body releases hormones called Endorphins.

Remember that women are much more emotional and these hormones give her a natural high sensation. A sensation that women love. The same sensation that she gets from chocolate and you know just how much women love chocolate.

But you need to realize that not all humor is going to be amusing to women and failing to be the right kind of funny could very easily be sabotaging your dating game.

Note that no woman wants a clown; not in public and definitely not in private (unless she is into some weird fetish). And that brings up an important question that you must answer:

“What Humor Do Women love?”

Now unless you have a career in stand-up comedy, then it is wise to avoid generic jokes from joke books and comedy shows.

Let me explain…

The reason to avoid those jokes is because you do not want to appear like a clown or a comical character in any way, shape or form.

And appearing like a clown or comical character is the image that rehearsed jokes will create for you.

Rehearsed jokes only work in a monologue (a stand up routine or comedy show) and not in a dialogue (conversations with women). If you try those jokes in a dialogue you will end up looking starved for attention and a bit of a social clown.

And so the kind of humor that you should learn is a mixture of wit and self confidence.

The reason that this combination works like gold is simply because having a sense of wit reveals a high level of intelligence whereas it is no secret that all women love confidence in men. Some dating gurus have coined this amazing kind of humor as ‘Cocky Humor’.

Wit + Self Confidence = Cocky Humor

Now please note that there is a fine line between ‘Cocky Humor’ and plain old arrogance. Learning how to tread that line requires some experience but that isn’t hard to acquire.

Now what you will find yourself struggling with is letting yourself be confident enough to be ‘Cocky’.

Why? Because ‘Cocky Humor’ requires a lot of self confidence.

Let me explain this to you….

When you use ‘Cocky Humor’ you will have to be confident enough to be able to tease her, no matter how beautiful she is. While at the same time being charming enough to communicate a playful and good nature behind your bold words.

‘Cocky Humor’ is never spiteful. It is always playful and witty and that is what makes it fun for women. It communicate to her that you are both intelligent and confident… which are both traits that women love in men.

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