Shyness Kills Nice Guys With Women

I was talking to a friend of mine who sees himself as a “nice guy”, and he had a bit of a confusion about women, nice guys and confidence.

He basically told me “You know, I get this whole thing about confidence, is that really why women don’t like nice guys?”

My answer to him? Yes of course! A very firm and solid yes!

It is all about the shyness. I have a really shocking revelation to you. Women are literally blind to male shyness. I mean between two guys who are identical, except one is shy, the shy one will get as much as ten times worse results with women.

1) Women don’t see shyness in men

The guys online who claim that women hate shy guys completely misinterpret things. Its not that women hate shy guys… Its that women don’t even know guys can be shy or have issues or fear.

When you are shy, you actually end up acting in ways she misinterprets as being arrogant, jerk-like and cold. She literally doesn’t know its possible for a man to be shy around her. She’s too busy worrying about her own insecurities. So when you don’t ask her out due to shyness, she blames herself, never even assuming you might be shy.

2) All dating requires both parties to play the courtship ritual

Yes, just like animals, we too have a mating ritual. This ritual requires that males do certain things, and women do others. Shyness screws up this ritual on both sides, but mostly the male side.

This ritual presumes that males show sexual interest in females. Nice guys however don’t do this due to shyness or lack of confidence.

Nice guys don’t show direct, sexual interest in women, and they tend not to initiate the romantic process or bring it forward.

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