Still In Love With Your Ex Girlfriend?
March 3, 2009 by Elinor Uriostegui
Filed under Dating Tips
Even when you love someone and want them to be a part of your life it can be hard to make a relationship work. If your ex girlfriend has broken up with you and you aren’t happy about it, don’t simply settle for the end of the relationship. If she loves you and you love her, there is a chance that you can get her back in your life and actually be happy together.
The first thing you need to do is figure out what went wrong. Chances are, you know what went wrong but many men really are clueless because the girl just up and walked out of their life. If you aren’t sure, try to get her or her friends to talk to you about what went wrong. When you have an understanding of what went wrong it will be much easier.
The next thing you need to do is sit and really think about if you can change what drove her away. Was it something that is fundamental to who you are? Or, was it simply a difference in opinion or the way of doing things? If it is something that you can change you are in luck!
Dont assume that you can just show up on her doorstep and shell take you back. Instead, you need to begin working on yourself. Give her a week or so to cool down and then give her a call. Just let her know that you still care and you wanted to check on her and make sure she is doing alright. Keep the conversation with your ex girlfriend short.
Send her a bouquet of her favorite flowers or her favorite candy. It doesn’t have to be anything that costs a lot, just send it, and if you want to make her excited than you can send it anonymously, she might like that! This will be how you begin to woo her and get her back.
Give it another week and write to her. Explain what you are doing to change things and be the person that she needs you to be. Detail what you are doing to change and how you would like to be a part of her life still. Don’t make it a letter begging her to come back, make it about the changes that you are undergoing and that you hope to share them with her.
After three to seven days you should write her a letter if she has not already contacted you. Let her know that you understand why things went wrong and tell her what you are willing to do to fix it. Detail the changes you are willing to make in your life and how you have already begun to work on your issues.
If you do go out with her, make sure that you treat her well. If you know she likes doors opened and wants you to hold her hand, do these little things. These little things mean the most and it will show her that you are serious about making her happy.
When you are out, have a heart to heart about how you feel. Let her know that you are sorry for your past mistakes and that you are serious about overcoming them, hopefully with her in your life. Let her know that you have a real hope that things can work out. Encourage her to share her feelings, as well.
If she accepts, make sure that you hold true to your word about what you are going to change. Continue to treat her right and to make your feelings about her known at all times. Relationships are difficult, but if you hold true to your words you’ll be able to hold onto the girl.