Simple Tips To Get Your Ex Back If She Wants More Space
October 3, 2009 by Howey Lacus
Filed under Dating Sites
Your relationship seemed fine: you could chat about anything, you had great moment together, and you never have a fight. Then one day, your sweetheart dropped a bomb: she wants more space. And now your good relationship is over and youre broken up.
What was going on? The unexpected break up leaves you asking your heart and wondering if you did some mistakes. If you want your girlfriend back, the first thing you need to do is let your girlfriend have the space she needs.
Your girlfriend may have a good reason to need some space, but its helpless to waste time over-thinking about the break up. When the situation is right, she will tell you the truth. Many girlfriends find they suddenly need space because of some issues with family or friends, personal insecurities, or even a fear of commitment if the relationship was moving too quickly.
Instead of obsessing over your girlfriends reason for needing space, focus on winning her back. Take this approach to ensure success:
Dont ask your girlfriend to come back or send emotional messages to her. That will just make her feel like she needs even more space. Have some patience and act cool.
On the other hand, dont entirely ignore your girlfriend. Just because she needs space doesnt mean she wants to be left alone. Send her a text message or call her every once in a while just to check how shes doing. Keep the conversations short and simple.
As you give her the space she needs, while showing her that you still want to be part of her life, she will begin to reach out to you more. This gives you the chance to bring up good memories during your conversations and reminisce a little bit. Dont discuss negative experiences or demand she tell you why she broke up with you. Keep it calm and comfortable so that she can relax around you.
After some time, if your ex girlfriend is not responding to your approach, and in fact keeps pushing you away more, you need to re-evaluate. Its possible that she just really is not interested in you anymore. On the other hand, perhaps she needs more space and you should back off some more. Ideally, however, she will be expressing more interest in you and calling you more. In this case, you can take things to the next level and start working on rekindling the relationship.
Finally, if you are getting some obvious signals of interest from your ex girlfriend, open up to her. Let her know how you feel, but tell her in a simple, direct way. Dont act desperate or clingy”that will just sabotage all your hard effort up to this moment. And if you have read the signals back, then this will be the time when you get your ex girlfriend back. Because you gave her the space she needed, your relationship will probably be better than ever before.