Non Verbal Flirting, Part 5
April 15, 2009 by Joseph Matthews
Filed under Dating Tips
I wrote about how gestures function in the role of flirting in the last article of this series.
This time I’ll talk about your facial expressions and how they fit into your strategy.
Now when most people think of facial expressions they usually conjure up images of Jim Carrey making a silly face, or some other comedian perhaps.
Believe it or not, the facial expressions we display take on a powerful role in what we signal to the other person. And conversely, how they see us as well!
Understand the importance here – the look on your face can be very off putting, and it will have NOTHING to do with your actual looks. If you scowl naturally, or come across as “expressionless”, you can scare others away.
It’s always a good idea to take time to understand yourself. Look in the mirror. Get a handle on your natural expressions, and see how those can be of advantage (or disadvantage) to you.
For now though, let’s take a look at some facial expressions that are akin to the gestures I wrote about in the last article.
A well known expression is the eyebrow raise. It’s used to acknowledge another person from across a room, particularly when they can’t say hello.
Now, you can try this with a stranger. The idea would be to create some confusion, because this person will be wondering exactly who you are.
It creates an opportunity to enter into conversation, but beware. It can backfire and end things before you can even begin.
If the person you do this with finds you attractive, it generally will work, however. It will probably be evident in their facial expression.
The big issue here, and one that most men run into, is that facial expressions are the most common way that someone expresses deceit when it comes to conversation. We look at each other’s faces most of the time, so it’s evident that is the first place we try to hide our feelings at.
A fake expression, like a social smile or stone face, can be used to hide true feelings, BUT they can’t hide the signs that give them away.
I’ll get into WHY they give false readings, and HOW we can use facial expressions to heighten our flirting!