Men’s Guide To Flirting: Types of Flirting
March 24, 2009 by Joseph Matthews
Filed under Dating Tips
A lot of guys don’t realize that there are some ground rules that must be observed while flirting. If you understand these, it’ll make things easier for you while interacting with girls.
Do you understand that there are different types of flirting, which are directly tied to WHO you flirt with? A lot of people don’t.
Fun, harmless flirting can be done with almost any girl. Just exercise a degree of caution when doing it. This is mainly banter, and glances.
In this case, it’s also important to see the difference between friendly behavior and sexual flirting. Men are more likely to do this, as women supposedly have a ‘diplomacy’ gene that allows them to sense things in the interaction that men will miss. What is definitely stacked against us is that we see the world in more sexual terms than women.
Overall, it’s best to step back for a moment when it’s going on to determine what is really happening.
After that, you’ll get into flirting with the purpose of picking up. This is more deliberate and you’ll need to understand some rules for this type of encounter.
A very basic trick to learn is to flirt with someone who shares your level of attractiveness, until you get some hours of approaching down. Now, that probably creates a few questions in your mind. How attractive are you? It’s beyond the scope of this article, so that one I’ll answer later.
A plus to this understanding is that your level of attractiveness isn’t permanent. You can become FAR more attractive with a bit of effort on your part. And attractiveness isn’t just about looks either.
Another issue you’ll face regarding this is that women often misjudge their own attractiveness as well. Some beautiful women have poor body images, while others think they are far more attractive than they are. So don’t hesitate to talk with any of them!
You can easily become more attractive, so no one should be “off limits”. Don’t be put off by turn downs and the idea of attracting a less beautiful woman. These small victories are great for confidence.
The second trick is to avoid flirting with someone who isn’t going to return your interest. Now, this can be confusing. I recommend that you present yourself as best as possible: be well dressed, well mannered, and well versed in flirting. Take good care of yourself. This will tips the odds in your favor.
Now, understand a simple, basic concept that is obvious if you think about it. Women have their ideals which become more and more apparent as they age. They are looking for men who can provide for them or offer a rise in their status. Men, like you and I, prefer youth and attractiveness.
Simple stuff, but it seems rather restricting. Are you wealthy, or famous? Do you “do well”? This doesn’t mean you can’t find a “10″, it just means you need to work harder to get one. Confidence and charm go a LONG way in helping with this. There are more ideas on this at my site.
I don’t think it should necessarily need mentioning, but I would personally avoid these types: married women, women who are obviously with someone else, or someone who can have an effect on your life in a bad way (like your boss).
In future articles I’ll get into how to flirt. It’s just as important to know as who to flirt with and the types of flirting you’ll encounter.