Making Your First Date Right: Tips for Men
May 21, 2009 by Desmond Ray
Filed under Dating Sites
It is hard to predict a woman, this is why making first date makes so exciting. Your heart runs wild from an agitation, or, perhaps a fear of being unfit, or maybe both things together. How you should make your first date so it will not be the last one? Where is this thin line which separates awkwardness from artistry and lead to attraction and not to repulsion? Here are some tips, which I hope will help you in this special business.
Tip 1: Be a perfect planner. Think over all elements of your first date: time, place, entertainment program. Better: prepare two options, and, if you would feel any hesitation on the other side regarding your best plan, offer plan B. If you met her online, you already know (from her personal profile, from your email exchange) what turns her on. Still, keep in mind that she has never seen you before, so the choice of the place must be such, that she will feel safe and confident there. Looking for a nice and comforting place for first meeting: what that should be? It is always good to propose first meeting at a local museum of art or any other place of this kind. You can always find in such places a small cafe nearby or just a bench to sit and talk, it is usually quiet there, safe and peaceful, and you will be surrounded by beautiful objects of art. From there you can move to whatever is a next stop in your plan: restaurant, cinema, theater, vinery, or night club, however, keep in mind that sometimes it is better to leave such places for the next date.
Tip 2: Be there in time. It is scientifically proven fact that the first 15 seconds of meeting form an opinion about a person. If you will not get there in time, you will not get even these 15 seconds! Nobody likes when someone makes them wait, especially women. They usually fill the waiting time with thinking about million of those useful things, which they could do instead of standing here and just waiting. And, it usually does not take them too long to decide that they better do these things, rather than wasting their time on that slipshod fellow who is obviously not in a hurry to meet her. Likely you will not see her again.
Tip 3: Look neatly. Maybe I should not tell you that, maybe you are well aware of this simple fact, that when you are coming to a date (especially first date) you should look like you just jumped from a vintage postcard! Nevertheless, I have to mention this anyway, at least for the sake of those who forgot this simple rule. Women like when man looks like he took care of his appearance. Of course, everything counts and everything will be noticed: attire, shoes, hair, fragrance, even teeth and fingernails! Undoubtedly, she had spent several hours before mirror, making herself look special so she expects same from you! Do not get me wrong, you do not have to go for a day in a beauty parlor, just put some effort into it, so you will look attractive. Shower, shave, wrinkleless clothes and shiny shoes are those necessary elements which will make you feel good about yourself and help you to win those 15 seconds, which I have mentioned above.
Tip 4: Flowers and Flowers only! Rings of pearls (better saltwater), diamonds and everything made out of gold is what 98% of women want to get from you, but do not make this to happen on the first date. Just keep this in mind for the future. On the first date bring her one red rose (or, maybe a dozen, but not overdo it); so she will know that the man she just met has a great taste and is worth (hopefully) to be seen again.
Tip 5: Be kind. Do not afraid of being perceived as an old-fashioned gent. Opening doors before her, pooling chairs for her, letting her in first, and so on will not hurt you at all, just opposite. Even hard core feminist would like to be treated that way. Help her to take off her coat: you can hug her slightly and this will be a step in a right direction.
Tip 6: Compliments and more compliments. Women love them. First sentence after your initial greetings must be: You look great! (Fantastic, gorgeous, terrific ). And keep this tone for the rest of the evening: your effort will be appreciated!
Tip 7: Speak less, listen more. Women usually want to know about you, but even more they would like to tell about themselves. Give her this opportunity: ask questions and listen attentively everything she says. Of course, you have to listen actively, support her with short phrases, like “Is that right?!”, “Yeah, I see”, “Interesting” and keep nodding. If there will come your turn to talk, it is a bad idea to talk about your past wives and lovers, about issues with your health, about problems at work or on any religious subjects. Your task is to find a topic of mutual interest (while she is talking) and develop it. Look into her eyes, smile, show her a good sense of humor, and definitely do not try to tell her everything about yourself, leave it to your second, third, n-th date with her, which will surely happen if you will follow these simple rules.