Looking To Yourself – What Causes Jealousy
March 4, 2010 by Trevor Johnson
Filed under Dating Tips
Many people think that what causes jealousy are strictly external factors but actually jealousy is an internal factor and trying to figure out why you are jealous of something can be very difficult. The people that tend to be the ones that suffer greatly from jealousy are those that have a low self esteem or low self image.
If you do not think well of yourself or are constantly doubting yourself then you may frequently feel jealous towards those individuals that may have qualities you wish you had. This means that in many situations your jealousy will blow situations out of proportion. Jealousy changes how you perceive the world and your role in the world.
Many people experience jealousy in their relationship. You may feel jealous every time you think your partner is not with you or you see them interacting with other people. This jealousy is due to the fact that you are afraid of being alone and are very nervous about your partner finding someone else and leaving you.
How intense your jealousy is many times will differ depending on the situation. If you like the person of whom you are jealous then your jealousy is not that intense whereas if you hate the person to whom your jealousy is focused then your jealousy can be very intense.
Anger and fear can also cause jealousy and jealousy based on anger can be very dangerous as this can many times spurn and individual to action or look for revenge. You need to uncover the cause of your jealousy so you can go about and take positive action from your jealousy such as working towards an achievement or goal yourself.
The best way to get rid of jealousy is to work on your self esteem. If you feel good about yourself then you will feel more confident and good towards other people, which will have the beneficial side effect of reducing any jealous feelings you may have had.
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