I Lost Love ” Every Relationship Has a Time Line
May 17, 2009 by Jeremi Hani
Filed under Dating Sites
As time came and went, I somehow reflect about how I lost my love, and it also comes to my mind about a quotation, It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all by Alfred Lord Tennyson. When I lost my love, I really felt that my entire world was about to collapsed around me. I am sharing my story to you for the reason that I want to help you if you have lost the love of your life.
I think it is important to remember that every relationship has a natural lifespan. In Junior High, that’s about four days. As we get older, the lifespan increases. But, there are certain relationships that are right for a period of time and then go awry. Most of us will only have one great love in our lives. The other relationships will terminate. That’s why when I say I lost love, I understand that this is a natural process.
In my case, my girlfriend and I were thinking about ratcheting up our relationship. Her lease was about to end, and she wanted to move into my apartment. As we were spending most of our time there anyway, it made sense from a financial perspective.
But there is a little noteworthy about having separate places. I know I lost love for the reason that I could not cope with her taking our relationship to this level. I presume the time span of our relationship was up because I was not willing to become more committed.
Now, I know I handled the situation badly. I went to a friends bachelor party and lets just say things got out of hand. Word about the wild antics at the party got back to my girlfriend, naturally, and she dumped me. I lost love over the events of one night.
But, when I think back on what really happened, the events of the bachelor party were really a reaction to our discussion of more commitment. I seriously don’t think I would have behaved the way I did if I really wanted her to move in. I lost love because I wasn’t ready for the direction it was taking.
I am delighted I had the chance to be in a relationship with my ex. But I do not suppose she was the love of my life, my companion. In its place, she was an important person with whom I genuinely enjoyed spending time. I loved her. I still love her. On the contrary she is not the person with whom I see spending the rest of my life.
I went all through a period of sorrow for the relationship and analyzing what went erroneous. I in reality was hurt when she said she wanted to finish things. By all means, I realized that I had hurt her. But, I did not want her to leave my life entirely.
I speculate what I wanted was for things to go on the way they were. Nevertheless, every relationship has to grow or die. Because I was not willing to let it grow, it had to die. In each relationship, there is a time to die. And, for me, this was it. That is how I lost love.