He Dumped Me! What Now?
May 2, 2009 by Ricardo d Argence
Filed under Dating Sites
If you are saying he dumped me. How will I ever survive? Mere words in an article will not give you comfort. It may help to know that while youve broken up, you are not a broken person.
There are two things which come to mind in people in shock over a breakup thinking “he dumped me!”. One is that things will never get better. The other is that you’re somehow unworthy of being loved and that no one else ever will.
Try to relax for a moment. Yes, the worry and the pain are very real ” but it’s the relationship which is over, not your life.
You have your friends and family; people who care for you and love you. Now is a good time to reconnect with these important people in your life. You can definitely use their emotional support and since you’ve been involved in your relationship, you may not have spending as much time with them. Spending time with people who care about you will certainly make you feel a little better about things.
In fact, sharing your loss with them may encourage them to share their break up experiences with you. When you say, “he dumped me,” that allows them to be vulnerable about how they’ve been hurt. You will begin to see that your pain is not unique. You will also be able to see that other people have lived full and complete lives after a break up.
In addition to having more time for others who you care about, you will have more time to work on the issues in your life. Many times, when you are in a relationship, the activities you care about get pushed aside if your boyfriend isn’t interested in them. This is a good time to get re-involved in the things that matter to you.
If there’s nothing you’ve been neglecting, then this might be a great time for a new hobby. When you’re thinking “he dumped me”, you may well be suffering from low self esteem. Get out there, keep busy and make some new friends ” this will make you feel better about yourself.
The best activities to get involved in are group ones like a club or a class where you can take part in some sort of activity and socialize with other people.
When you start getting back into life, you’ll stop feeling as isolated and desperate as you did when he dumped you. You’ll have new friends, new activities and who knows, you may even meet a new special someone!
The truth is that you will find someone to date again. Your soul mate is out there.
In retrospect, you may look at the breakup as a positive event which allowed you to move on and meet that perfect guy; after all, the best revenge is living well!