Guy’s Night Out; What’s In It For The Ladies
September 18, 2009 by Shawn Wilson
Filed under Dating Sites
When you’re in a relationship, it can be easy to fall into the habit of spending all your time together. So when you’re beloved tells you he wants to go out with the guys (just the guys) for a night, it’s just as easy to be immediately plagued by doubts: doubts that your man is still interested in you, doubts that you’re fun to go out with, doubts that he’ll behave himself when he’s out on the town without you.
But calm down. It’s (usually) not nearly that sinister. Men need time with other men, without the women around. It’s not sexist, it’s not shady but it is sacred. And you don’t even want to be the girl who denies her partner that. Here’s why:
Liberation!
It’s a simple fact that guys feel more comfortable being in a relationship when they can maintain the feeling that they aren’t tied down. Keep in mind that your man might revolve his world around you these days but before you were in the picture, he had a whole other life.
Of course life changes when two people become a couple, but there are likely things from your single life that you both want to hang on to. For men, guy time is one of those things. And if he’s denied this time, he’ll only want it more. If he doesn’t think he can break lose every once in a while, then that’s exactly what he’ll want to do. And it will lead to total relationship disillusionment.
Make Him Remember What He’s Got
You know that you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to your guy. But it is possible to over romanticize your relationship. Remember that horrible roommate your first year of college? And how you talk lovingly about her now? When a guy spends too much time away from other single women without his significant other there to hold his attention he’s going to start longing for a time that wasn’t that good to begin with.
This is the time to muster all the self confidence you have. If there are trust issues in your relationship, by all means work them out. However, committed and trust filled relationships can handle it when one, or both, partners go their separate ways for an evening. Mindless flirtation with others is just good clean fun.
You have to realize that when you give your man your blessing to hit the bars with his buddies he will be looking at, talking to and probably flirting with other women. This is not necessarily a bad thing depending on how you look at it. Provided your relationship has a solid foundation, when he compares you to other single ladies they’ll be found wanting, and he’ll be that much more excited to see you when he gets home.
Earn points with his friends
Men in relationship have male friends; those male friends detest the woman who won’t let their pal off the hook without her. This is small stuff, so go with the flow and don’t sweat it. You’ll score brownie points for yourself with his friends. To most men, this means a great deal.
This article was written by the writers of the Datepad.com free internet dating company where you can find thousands more helpful dating articles.
Ive always found it healthy for my relationship when my partner goes out with his friends, he relaxes and has his own space. Trust is the most important thing however and I probably wouldnt understand him going out if I didnt trust him 100%.