Getting Over Your Break Up – The Steps Involved
March 29, 2009 by Matt Lions
Filed under Dating Tips
Why is it so difficult to remain in love? Everybody wonders the same thing after a particularly bad breakup. People have been breaking up since the custom of dating began, but we really aren’t that good at it yet. We often want desperately to get our ex back, but don’t really have the first clue about how to do that.
To start with, most people make the mistake of acting whiny and needy. They act desperately, but they never realize how unattractive that looks. Acting desperately means that your ex might pity you, but not fall back in love with you.
When your ex starts to pity you, that makes your job ten times harder. It’s not completely unheard of to reconnect with someone who pities you, but it’s definitely a lot more difficult.
I know that its tough not to act that way, especially when you really care about somebody. But you have to look from the outside in. How you present yourself in front of your ex, is the key.
All the emotions that you have, should be done in private. There is absolutely nothing wrong with crying or screaming, but do that in your own private time, not in front of your ex.
Also, try not to make yourself appear combative. That’s a real problem, and it’s definitely not going to score any points with your ex. It’s most likely to push them in the completely opposite direction. You’ve probably seen an ex-couple fight when you know that at least one of them wants to get back together!
The absolute last thing that a couple needs is to raise their voices with one another if they’re ever going to get back together.
If there are two words of advice that I would give to someone its be flexible. Forget being stubborn. There is no time for that. The only thing that should matter to you is how to get my ex-back. Having a rigid attitude will never help.