Flirting Without Words, Part 6
April 12, 2009 by Joseph Matthews
Filed under Dating Tips
Facial expressions play a major role in flirting, as I wrote in the last part of this article.
Now I’ll show you why people send out fake signals, and HOW to harness the ability of facial expressions to our advantage!
Why would be bother trying to look beneath the surface to figure out the person’s true intention? Well, at times a person feels they HAVE to hide their feelings.
Someone who is in a relationship, yet is flirting with another person, can put on a neutral face in order to seem harmless. Or an insecure person who doesn’t trust his feelings and doesn’t want to risk the odds and show his feelings. There are countless reasons to look below the surface.
Generally, the most commonly faked expression is a smile. In social situations, a smile might be faked to show that they are courteous, despite the fact that they do NOT want to speak with the person that is talking to them.
How do you spot a fake smile? It’s easy. Look at the eyes – do wrinkles appear around them? If yes, it’s usually genuine.
Is the smile even on both sides? If no, it’s another sign of a manufactured smile. Also watch for poorly timed smiles – ones that are held too long, or pop up late.
It just takes some time to get a firm idea of this.
As well, in a situation where one might be flirting, it’s the same principal – look at the clue, but pay attention to who is sending it. A very outgoing person might smile at you, but that could be their normal manner. A shy person smiling at you is a far better signal. Pay attention the person doing it.
For your own facial expressions, this is very important too. Some people are a bit put off if you aren’t close to matching their levels of expression – if you are too “stone faced” with a person who is very expressive, it can be frustrating, and vice versa.
If you work on it, you can match the level of expression they display.
As well, learning to use your face informatively is the best thing you can do in this manner. Allow it to show expression, then match the level of expression that the other person is giving off. So pay attention to how you are using your face!
You can nod, as stated above. Raising an eyebrow is also good to show surprise.
Basically, think about REACTING to what they are expressing. It will show interest, which is good!
In the next article, I’ll go over the role that our tactile sense plays in flirting!
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