Ending A Relationship – Will It Need To Be Hard?
January 16, 2010 by Shawne M. Patrick
Filed under Dating Tips
Breaking up is tough to do. Someone generally ends up hurt, whether intentional or not. But it doesn’t need to be as bad as many make it appear. One thing about breaking up is : it is not a bad event. Look at it from a different point of view. Whether it’s guys splitting with girls, or the other way around, it can basically be a good thing for both parties concerned.
The method of ending a relationship also has rules. Perhaps they are not immovably set sort of rules, but more unwritten apropos basic kindness. Clearly, not every situation can be though of as civil. However, in relationship where true respect is involved, there are some tacit ways to treat a breakup.
Straight off think about yourself. If you were the one to hear the bad news that your squeeze or partner wished to end the relationship, how would you feel? How would you wish to feel? You would not need to be let down in a communal area in front of other folk. You would not want it to be in a scenario where you are enjoying yourself. Nor would you like to be humiliated in any way. These are things to consider if you wished to end a relationship with somebody. You should treat others how you want to be treated – with respect and empathy.
In many cases, it doesn’t have to be a bad split up in any way. You both may not get along, and may decide to not even be friends any longer, let alone consider getting married. That is fine. You can move on with your life, and so can they. But a critical aspect in or out of any relationship is to chat about it. Both parties need to be ready to share their feelings across the relationship, not just when the time has come for breaking up.
If the communication channels are not there, then it’s going to be tougher on everyone involved, and chances are, there will be unanswered questions that might have potentially prevented this split.
One must consider the other persons’ feelings in what they do. So talk it out and be considerate of the one you may finish up hurting. Give a little consideration to what choices you are making and the explanations behind them. Then debate ways it may benefit or be harmful for breaking up with somebody you once had feelings for. You may just find that you can stay together and make it work!
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