Dead Dating Life?
October 9, 2009 by Astrid Engels
Filed under Dating Sites
If you are sitting at home on a Saturday night browsing internet dating profiles instead of out engaging in a little social flirt fest, you are probably also cursing your luck for not handing you a gorgeous date (and a hot new outfit to go with, I mean, as long as you are wishing for things).
Well, cut it out. Seriously. Not to lecture or anything, but blaming the cosmos for the fact that you are not wining and dining is essentially the least productive thing you can do. I am not pointing fingers (okay, yes, I am) but chances are, you have no one to fault but yourself. But never fret, weary romantic wanderers, it is probably a quick fix and you will be on your way to make-out town in no time.
Single Situation #1: You Are Waiting instead of Dating
So you are reading this while home alone on a Saturday night, which means that you are home, by yourself, on a weekend night. And you are not too happy about it. Listen, not having a date is no excuse for not having fun. Moreover, how are you going to meet people who might ask you out if you stay home all the time?
You have heard of dressing for success, right? Social situations are no different. You are not going to meet anyone dressed in sweatpants, no matter how comfy they are when you are parked on the couch. Time to get your ass moving, put on something amazing and get out there to be seen. Join your friends, live it up, and someone is sure to notice that you are the life of the party.
Single Situation #2: Hard to Get is not just Playtime
It is all fine and dandy to consciously decide to NOT be too easy and over eager. Actually I advise it. A little social strategy and game playing is a good thing; after all, they are part of surviving the modern dating jungle.
Unfortunately if you play hard to get long enough, without bending the rules, you are going to end up becoming that person. Instead of being coy, you will be viewed as disinterested.
It is one thing to not throw yourself at every person who shows you attention (this will probably make them want you more) but it is quite another to act like you are not interested at all and to keep acting like that. This will make them think, gasp!, that you are REALLY not interested and then the pursuit is over.
Single Scenario 3: You Think You Know it All
Not only do you think you have men all figured out, you are sure you could write a book about their innermost psychological workings! And all that after five minutes of conversation! You have received, and rejected, dates left and right simply because you just “know” that these are not the guys for you.
This is going to be a bit of a blow to your ego, so hang on to your hat. You are wrong; you do not know it all. Though you claim that all “the good ones are taken”, it is only because you dismiss them out of hand. It is the people reading skills you are so proud of that are keeping you from meeting anyone interesting. And they are also standing in the way of someone interesting getting to know you.
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