Coping with Teenage Love Problems
March 9, 2009 by Cheryl Pierce
Filed under Dating Tips
Teens and grownups tend to handle things differently in certain situations, and dealing with breakups is certainly no different. Some of the greatest advice that can be volunteered to teens coping with breakups can be found online, because there are teens all over the world that are learning the lessons of love the hard way, by losing the people they cared about to breakups.
If you are a teenager and you have been recently separated from your boyfriend or your girlfriend, then you are probably feeling heartbroken right now, which is simply expected no matter how old you are. Luckily, you have plenty of living inn front of you, and you will meet a surprising number of wooers in your life that are better suited for you. Everyone goes through love and loss, and while it is unpleasant to begin so young, you can and will move forward from this time of heartbreak.
Here is some introductory advice for teens dealing with breakups and the related heartbreak.
- Do not try to get back together with your ex instantly. The best way to prove to your ex that you are worth getting back together with is to play it cool and let him or her think that you’re doing just fine without them. Play it cool by playing like you’re having a good time and hanging out with people, and that you do not need your ex to enjoy yourself.
- The initial period of time that passes after a breakup can be rough, and you might feel enticed to get back with your ex, but you need to let your emotions simmer first so as to come off as calm and cool rather than needy and despairing. If you act desperately, this will actually greatly decrease your power to get things going with your ex again in the future.
- The safest plan to pursue is to stop continually calling, texting and trying to see your ex. Move on, or at least give the appearance that you are moving on. Play hard to get. Play it cool. Let your ex acquire the needy and desperate feelings rather than demonstrating them yourself.
- Get out of the house and visit other people. Spend time with friends, meet new people, and have fun. Let your ex see that you are enjoying fun and getting along fine. Don’t be scared to flirt a little.
This will work wonders for your self esteem and your damaged feelings, and will create a little bit of jealousy in your ex. Let your ex simmer for a while, and you will begin looking much more attractive to him or her in no time at all.
Nonetheless, a word of caution with this specific word of advice, for teens coping with breakups; don’t exaggerate the “jealousy factor” as it can easily backfire on you.
- Take things slow. Even if your aim is to get things going with your ex, the breakup is going to have produced residual feelings of heartbreak, so you need to mend your heart before you strike up any relationship, ex or not.
To total up this advice for teenage love problems, use your common sense and keep your emotions in check. By doing so you will see that time will be your best friend as your heart mends itself.
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