3 Accidental Insults You Might Be Handing Your Partner

We’ve all had situations with our partner or significant other in which we mean to say something nice, but it’s perceived as the total opposite. No amounts of back tracking, apologies or explanations are going to fix it. You didn’t mean it the way it was taken, but now you’re stuck with it.

Here are three of the more common “oops!” insults, how to avoid them and how to fix the situation if they slip out:

1) “You’re unlike anyone I’ve ever dated”

Obviously you said to be complimentary; this person really is one in a million. However, all your date will be thinking about is every other fantastic person you’ve ever been out with and how he/she doesn’t measure up. Remember this; never compare your current sweetie to ones from your past, even if you intend to place him or her at the top of the list. Your partner would just like to pretend that he or she is your first (at least at the beginning of your relationship), so just go along with it.

If you’ve already made this awkward compliment blunder, if can usually be easily corrected by reassuring your significant other that they are light years ahead of people in your past and then give a few sincere, him-/her-specific compliments. Don’t lie and don’t be overly wordy and trip over yourself. Just be comforting…after a harsh moment of thinking about you and other people, you love might just need a minute to remember that they are the apple of your eye.

2) “Size, schmise, it really doesn’t matter”

OMG, no, you did not just say that! People, don’t we know by now that this is never okay? Okay, okay, I’ve slipped up and said it before. You’ve said it before. Your grandmother probably said it. And I’m guessing that every time, it was received the same way: awkward, sudden insecurity and a perceived insult against his manhood.

The frustrating thing is (barring cases of exceptional size in either direction), this is usually true; size isn’t the most important package attribute. But there’s really no telling this to guys. If you tell them size doesn’t matter, they think you’re making them feel better for having a pitiful part. Even if they don’t. The best fix if you made this slip of the lip? Quickly explain what you mean, don’t dwell on it and probably give your partner little extra attention.

3) “I can’t believe you got the job!”

Now, maybe only the most insecure of people would see this as an insult. But hey, a lot of people are insecure and it doesn’t make them bad people…you just have to be careful. Make sure a compliment is truly a compliment. Of course they got the job! Hell yes, they got that job! They are going to kick that job’s ass and show it who’s boss! Those are compliments.

When your response to your partner’s good news is one of surprise, they’ll think you doubt their ability. It may be annoying, but if you think about it you’ll see that their reaction is justified. You’re supposed to be their biggest supporter. You shouldn’t need to be won over.

This post was developed by the writers of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can read hundreds of professional dating posts.

Guy’s Night Out; What’s In It For The Ladies

When you’re in a relationship, it can be easy to fall into the habit of spending all your time together. So when you’re beloved tells you he wants to go out with the guys (just the guys) for a night, it’s just as easy to be immediately plagued by doubts: doubts that your man is still interested in you, doubts that you’re fun to go out with, doubts that he’ll behave himself when he’s out on the town without you.

But calm down. It’s (usually) not nearly that sinister. Men need time with other men, without the women around. It’s not sexist, it’s not shady but it is sacred. And you don’t even want to be the girl who denies her partner that. Here’s why:

Liberation!

It’s a simple fact that guys feel more comfortable being in a relationship when they can maintain the feeling that they aren’t tied down. Keep in mind that your man might revolve his world around you these days but before you were in the picture, he had a whole other life.

Of course life changes when two people become a couple, but there are likely things from your single life that you both want to hang on to. For men, guy time is one of those things. And if he’s denied this time, he’ll only want it more. If he doesn’t think he can break lose every once in a while, then that’s exactly what he’ll want to do. And it will lead to total relationship disillusionment.

Make Him Remember What He’s Got

You know that you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to your guy. But it is possible to over romanticize your relationship. Remember that horrible roommate your first year of college? And how you talk lovingly about her now? When a guy spends too much time away from other single women without his significant other there to hold his attention he’s going to start longing for a time that wasn’t that good to begin with.

This is the time to muster all the self confidence you have. If there are trust issues in your relationship, by all means work them out. However, committed and trust filled relationships can handle it when one, or both, partners go their separate ways for an evening. Mindless flirtation with others is just good clean fun.

You have to realize that when you give your man your blessing to hit the bars with his buddies he will be looking at, talking to and probably flirting with other women. This is not necessarily a bad thing depending on how you look at it. Provided your relationship has a solid foundation, when he compares you to other single ladies they’ll be found wanting, and he’ll be that much more excited to see you when he gets home.

Earn points with his friends

Men in relationship have male friends; those male friends detest the woman who won’t let their pal off the hook without her. This is small stuff, so go with the flow and don’t sweat it. You’ll score brownie points for yourself with his friends. To most men, this means a great deal.

This article was written by the writers of the Datepad.com free internet dating company where you can find thousands more helpful dating articles.

Tips On Dating Someone With Children

There is no longer any doubt that internet dating is convenient. Within the space of a few years it has gone from being a fad to socially legitimate dating option. It’s no wonder! You can log in from anywhere at any time and browse hundreds of potential dates in a matter of minutes. Built in communication tools allow you to email, chat and even video chat; all at the touch of a button.

We all have a limited amount of spare time. And one of the most commons reasons, or so I understand, is having children. I call them biology’s little time consumers. Lest I represent myself, I want to make it clear; I do NOT have children. I don’t pretend to have the knowledge to write an advice piece on what it is like to be a single parent as it relates to romance and sex.

Though I do NOT have kids of my own, I do have single parent friends. I’ have also been known to dip my toes in the single daddy pool once or twice. From that, I have acquired a little experience about the ins and outs of dating someone who has children which I share with you now.

Like kids

Seriously. If you don’t like kids, don’t want kids, have no real desire to be around kids, I would think twice before agreeing to go out with someone already packing reproductive baggage. Guess what? They aren’t going anywhere. Yes, there’s always the possibility of you coming around and becoming endeared to these specific children and there’s nothing wrong with testing those waters. Just beware: if you don’t like kids, don’t get attached to your new sweetie too quickly.

Be prepared to be second best at all times

New parents are often overheard saying that they thought they could never love someone more than their spouse; until they had a baby. That new bundle of joy just took over their heart. That’s just the way biology works. Dating someone who has strong emotional ties to someone else, in this case their child(ren), you need to be realistic and put your ego on the back burner. Their children come first, always.

Children have a Mom AND a Dad

So lucky you have met an amazing guy. He’s funny, he’s smart, he’s hard working AND he’s good looking! You’re smitten. His five year old is adorable and lo and behold the little darlin’ thinks you’re just great. Then you meet The Mother. No, I’m not talking about his mother. It’s scarier than that; it’s The Baby Mama.

It is rumored that separated parents can, and do, have a very respectful and amicable relationship. Let’s hope that’s the case here so you can breathe a tentative sigh of relief. If no one has ever told you before, be prepared for baggage no matter how well the parents get along. And for the sake of the child, hope and pray that the other parent will always be around for them.

Really, all of these points can be summed up by saying: be secure. That’s the bottom line. Between dealing with still-around exes, coming in second place in your significant others priority list, and dealing with the sometimes bumbling awkwardness of becoming acclimated to dealing with kids, an insecure person will see those insecurities magnified.

If you don’t confront and overcome those insecurities, the relationship won’t last. If you’re lucky, you will find yourself with someone who empathizes with your position, and can hold your hand through the tricky parts.