Are Special Interest Dating Sites Worth It?
March 12, 2009 by Joseph Matthews
Filed under Dating Tips
Recently, I’ve looked into these special interest dating sites. Now normally, I figure it’s not worth my time to mess around with these sites, as I would rather not limit my choices based on a single enjoyment I might have.
However, at the urging of a really beautiful friend, I took a look at a dating site for horseback riders. She swore up and down it was great, but I naturally had my doubts.
I’m glad I did. I was flat out stunned.
Not only were there a LOT of people on there, some of the women I found were quite beautiful. I couldn’t fathom the interest being that strong, or being such a great method of connecting.
I spoke with my friend more. These people are serious about this, and we started chatting how this could present great opportunities for dating.
Here are a few tips to help you out if you decide to take try a special interest dating site.
1) Make sure you ARE interested.
If you join a site for horse enthusiasts, then make sure you actually like horses. If you are just trying to make time with someone while faking an interest, it will eventually blow up.
Hey, they joined this site for a reason, right? They are expecting you to share the interest, and if the site was designed that way, you have no one to blame but yourself if you get caught lying.
2) Make sure you know about the group you are dealing with.
If you join a group that are primarily role players, for example, you might find that it’s not an easy game, far less easy than a normal site would be. The competition is stiff, and you might find fewer attractive women on average.
And before the beautiful ladies who role play decide to attack me, understand that there are exceptions to the rule. Just make sure you KNOW how the particular social group operates.
3) If you are a dilettante, brush up!
If you are dating within these groups, take the time to brush up on the respective interest. If you are going to be dating this woman, and you know she’s interested in horses or the like, then you already have a topic to discuss! This should be a no brainer. Spend some time focusing on this.
4) Don’t assume that they are any different than you are.
This can seem to be a bit contradicting in terms of what I wrote above. Some of them might be a bit fanatical about their interests, but all in all, they are still women. Now, I could imagine that you’ll find a few strange girls who can’t talk about anything else, but they are rather rare.
For example, just because a woman joins a site dedicated to something as wild as BDSM, it doesn’t mean that they aren’t normal people.
These sites can be much fun, and you can find some great success in them. Just make sure you really have an interest in what they are there for, and you should have a great time. Good luck!