A Break Up – How To Get Over It
March 11, 2009 by Matt Lions
Filed under Dating Tips
How come staying in a happy relationship seem so hard? Every single person that has broken up with somebody must have said that. It seems that we (society) should be better at breaking up than we are. I say this because, the one thought in our mind is “How To get my ex back” but we never think of the right ways in how to do this.
Take this, for instance. Some people act far too needy and clingy. They want their ex to come back to them so much that they just come across as desperate. You want your ex to have feelings for you, not just feel sorry for you.
When your ex starts to pity you, that makes your job ten times harder. It’s not completely unheard of to reconnect with someone who pities you, but it’s definitely a lot more difficult.
Clearly, it’s also difficult not to whine and make a fuss, particularly if your emotions are involved. But you need to look at this from the perspective of your ex. He or she won’t be impressed if all you can do is complain and act needy. Present yourself as a secure person instead.
Any emotional outbursts should be done when you are alone. It’s okay to cry and scream, but don’t let your ex see it. There’s no reason for that.
You also don’t want to come off as combative. So many people do this, and I can’t for the life of me, figure out why they do that. It’s completely counter intuitive. How many times have you seen a couple fight with one another and you know that at least one person wants to get back together?
Screaming matches only hurt your case, and they don’t help you provide a constructive framework for resuming the relationship.
If you want advice on getting back together in two words, here they are: be flexible. Don’t be stubborn or proud. You don’t have time for that. The only thing you need to worry about is getting your ex back. Being stubborn and inflexible will not help.
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