Flirting Without Speaking, Part 3

In part of the series, I’ll cover how your POSTURE can make a HUGE impact on your success with women!

Most men have no idea that their posture can be powerful, and in that regard, tend to sabotage themselves. It’s even worse for them around girls!

Our posture, and the rest of our body language, can betray us even if we’ve done a great job controlling the emotions that we show with our faces.

The good news is, we can learn to spot, control, and even use your postural language in your favor!

Take a good look at your physical posture when speaking to a woman you are attracted to. Overall, if you are displaying that you are displaying tension, nervousness, or poor self esteem, it will come through.

She’ll notice this as well. And often, she’ll mirror it. What we display to others, they will reflect right back.

That’s good news! If you put some positive, strong body language out there, and display a confident posture, it will help her feel more comfortable, and she’ll find your company far more enjoyable too!

Still, she may not be open. To know if she is, here are a few signs to look for:

-Watch which way her body is turned. Is it towards you? That’s good; if it’s to the side, take a hard look to see if she’s preoccupied. This includes feet too – generally they lead, in fact.

-How is her body tilted? Forward or back? If she’s leaning forward, it’s a very good indicator of interest. If she’s backwards and her attention is sporadic, it’s possible that she is bored. This is particularly true if she puts her head in her hands.

-How is she holding the rest of her body? If she has her legs and/or arms crossed, and is leaning back, she’s posturally closed. If she is leaning forward, and her arms and legs aren’t folded tight, she’s open, and that is what you want.

-The good signs you want to focus on are: leaning forward, undistracted focus, and her head slightly tilted to a side. If these are happening, you are probably doing well.

Those are good indicators to see where her interest is. There are a few that are even better though, but they aren’t specific.

If she is “mirroring” you posturally, this is really GOOD. It shows a congruence between you and her; If you lead, she’ll probably follow. And don’t be surprised if you find yourself following her lead too.

What does this look like then?

You’ll have the same side of each other moving towards the other- so if you have your right shoulder forward, she’ll have her left, and vice versa.

This is a tremendous advantage to you – you can mirror her, without her knowing it, and she’ll see you more positively than if you didn’t!

There are also gender specific gestures that are common. Watch for her. Odds are, if you are comfortable, you’ll do these naturally, so don’t worry about yours in particular.

For her, watch for her trying to heighten the display of gender specific features, such as arching her back to show her breasts, or crossing and uncrossing her legs to show them.

The key, overall, is to pay attention and be aware of these signs. They will help you make better decisions when meeting women!

The next piece to add to this, in the upcoming article, are your gestures. They can have a dramatic effect on your success as well!

The ABC’s Of Seducing Girls, Part 2

In part one I mentioned a sort of ‘tension’. What is it, and what does it have to do with seduction? Keep on reading below!

Overall, the process of seduction is about amplifying the feelings you’ve created. Desire and arousal are what you are going for, and if you can really provoke these emotions in her, you’ll have her wanting to release this tension.

So I create this tension in a woman, but how?

Well, there are various methods on how to do this. A lot of them are quite advanced (and very effective), but for the purposes of this article, I’m going to keep things simple.

The first thing you must do in seduction is to lay the groundwork for tension. This comes in the form of “playful teasing.”

Think of how you would tease a friend or a sibling. It would be good-natured teasing, am I right? But in this situation, we want to add a sexual element to the equation.

So for instance, if you’re with a girl on a date, and you order a drink, you could say “So if I have a few drinks, you’re not going to take advantage of me and just use me for getting some, are you?”

This is a fun and playful way of teasing the girl about wanting to sleep with you, WITHOUT coming off as creepy or blatant.

It’s important to do, too. We want the woman thinking about hopping in the sack. Because once you get her thinking about it, she’ll wonder what it is like to sleep with you!

Once you begin, however, be cautious about going overboard. Just throw the innuendos out every so often.

When you get past that stage, try touching her in an effort to amp up the physical tension between you two. Note I said touch, not grope.

So touching her on her hand, her wrist, her leg, thigh, lower back, and elbow can go a long way to establishing those feelings of connection. You can do this at any point while talking to her. You can even try and get closer to her while you are talking. Proximity is important as well.

Now its time to amp up your body language. Let her know, with your eyes, that you’re feeling attraction for her – but never say it and keep playing coy.

This is called sending “mixed signals.” She thinks you’re into her, but there is a measure of doubt, which really amps up the tension. Before long, she’ll want to find out for sure if you’re into her or not.

Next, it’s time to move towards more obvious forms of of discussion. Begin asking her about her fantasies. Try to figure out what turns her on. Keep teasing her and touching her as she talks about what she enjoys.

Finally, it’s time to get physical. At some point, you’re going to have to make your move, because the physical sensation of kissing and being petted will really start to amp up those feelings of desire she’s experiencing.

From there, you must take it upon yourself to lead her towards doing what you want. For instance, taking her by the hand and pulling her towards the bedroom.

Keep this in my because you don’t want to be left with just kissing. And she shouldn’t have to push YOU towards the bedroom. So cowboy up and do it yourself!

Do all the above things I mentioned, and any woman that you meet can be seduced.

Flirting Without Speaking, Part 2

As promised, here is the second part of this. I’ll be writing an entire series on the subject of flirting.

Last article I wrote about how to use your eyes to flirt; in this one, I’ll show you the role of personal proximity in flirting, and just how important it can be.

So you’ve done the silent dance that takes place with her eyes and yours. She’s sent signals indicating she’s interested, and it’s time to move in.

So you move in, and immediately you start to wonder… “how close should I stand?”

That’s a good question.

The general answer is, to start: about 4 feet.

Why four feet?

It’s what has developed as a sort of standardized safe distance in North America. The distance is about 2 small steps away from her; get any closer and you might notice how uncomfortable she’ll get, if you pay attention.

Geographically speaking, the distance is shorter in southern coastal Europe and Latin America. In Northern Europe and England, it’s a bit further.

Test it out. Next time you are just starting to speak with a woman, move closer too soon. She might show some signs of being uncomfortable with it (more than likely she will). If you are too far away, however, she might even move closer to you! Just watch for subtle shifts.

Eventually, however, you will move closer together. When is it time to do so? It’s whenever you start gaining a verbal rapport. She’ll loosen up, be playful, and you can start in with touching her. I always recommend paying attention to her body language.

The key is to see if she becomes more inviting. It will be obvious when she does, IF you are paying attention to the signs she’s giving you, and being objective about it. I’ll get more into body language at a later date, but I encourage you, in the meantime, to watch it closely, not only in your encounters, but the successful encounters you see out in the real world.

So what happens when you get too close? Again, the body language, along with her demeanor, will make this apparent. For example, if she folds her arms or legs, tightly, while facing your direction, that’s a really good warning sign.

If that happens, back off a bit. Take a half step back, straighten your posture, and watch how she reacts to you. She might loosen up a bit, and at that time, continue with the flirting, but ease into it.

Sometimes, when you get too close, she can become completely spooked. She’ll want to get away. If that happens, don’t worry, just chalk it up as a loss and move on to the next woman. It’s all part of the learning process.

Are there exceptions to the four foot rule? Absolutely. The first one has to do with location. If you are in a tightly packed bar, you can stand closer generally, as personal space has shrunk for everyone.

There are other exceptions: the first being intoxication. If people around you are drunk, their personal space will shrink. Go to a packed bar while sober and you’ll notice this. The person’s social nature will have an effect too – an extrovert is less effected by someone creeping too close than an introvert is.

Work with the concept to see if you can get the hang of it. Once you do, you’ll be a better flirt!

Deciphering “Girl Speak”, Part 2

In the first part of this article, I showed you what “Girl Speak” was, and how I avoided falling into it’s trap. In this part, I’ll teach you to avoid that trap too.

Now, if I had taken the”Girl Speak” from part 1 literally, I’d have never gotten past the initial meet.

Luckily, I know a trick to getting past the biggest girl speak objections.

You know the ones…

“I only like guys with great bodies.”

“A guy who wants to take me out needs to have a nice car.”

“I want a tall man.”

“I want a guy my own age.”

“I have a boyfriend.”

“I’m not looking for a serious relationship.”

Blah, blah, blah.

So how do I do it? Well, its fairly simple actually…

Instead of changing her mind, work on changing how she FEELS.

If some woman goes on about some certain thing she says is attractive, ignore the detail she is claiming is attractive. The truth is, she’s not saying what is really attracting her.

Not at all.

When a girl tells you something like “I like to date tall guys,” she’s not telling you she’s attracted to guys who are tall.

She’s telling you she’s attracted to the way tall guys make her FEEL.

Normally, if you ask a girl why she likes tall guys, she will share with you that maybe she “feels safer” with tall men.

So in that case, she’s looking to feel secure with the guy she’s dating.

Guess what? You don’t have to be tall to make a woman FEEL secure! you just need to know how to trigger that emotion inside her.

So let’s say you want to get a woman attracted to you – no matter what you look like.

Do you know how to make a woman feel that kind of attraction?

The key is making her feel FUN when she’s around you. If you can make a woman feel fun, chances are she’ll feel attracted.

Why?

Because attraction is all about feeling good! And if you can create some good old fashioned emotional tension in there – guess what?

She’s going to be attracted to you!

And if you have her attracted to you, the rest is a cakewalk!

How Do I Get Back Together With My Ex Boyfriend

Are you trying to look for a way to get your ex boyfriend back? Do you find asking yourself this question, How do I get back together with my ex boyfriend? I am going to out line strategies that can help you understand some of the things to do to attract him back.

Confrontations are bad between two exes. If you keep confronting your ex boyfriend about the break up, You will push him away. What you need to do at this moment is to make sure that you are always in good terms with him. Men hate to argue so try to avoid arguments.

Freshening yourself up is one of the best way to win your ex boyfriend back. Start working on yourself both physically and mentally. Start dressing the ways your ex liked and take care of your emotions. Start having a positive attitude whenever you get a chance to have a conversation with your ex boyfriend.

How do I get back together with my ex boyfriend has to do with the way you talk to him. I know a lot of advice out there tells you not to contact your ex boyfriend. My advice is that you should still contact him but minimize contact this time. Reduce all ways of communication and even seeing him.

Be confident and belief in your inner self. If you want him back, Work at getting him back with confidence. Low confidence will reduce your self esteem and this can make you start acting desperate. Doing so is unattractive to a man, worse enough, an ex boyfriend.

So I have given some answers on how do I get back together with my ex boyfriend but remember that there are many answers to this question. Give yourself respect by not accepting to sleep with him if you are not officially back together. This can also make him see you as easy to get.

Dating Advice

Dating advice is abundant: it’s on the Internet, in magazines, books, newspapers and on the TV. Dating advice is so easy to give that an eight-year-old even wrote a book about it. (That child is intelligent and ought to be sought after by the girls, because while fundamental, all of his dating advice is true. If you have read the book, you would be forced to admit that that eight-year-old child does know what he is proposing (no pun intended): that is to keep everything straightforward. And that it in a nutshell when it comes to dating, keep things simple.

Leave your past behind you. It’ll only get you bogged down. The first thing any dating-counsellor would advise you is that a fresh start is important for a date to go well. Talking to your date about how your ex mistreated you is definitely not the way forward. Sometimes it isn’t even necessary to talk, and a person who has been hurt once may be over suspicious of any new relationship and this could show in their attitude toward their date.

‘Do as you normally do – just be yourself’ is surely the best dating advice there is. Without dobt, people like to excel, to shine and impress their date, but faking it will only make both you and your date feel uncomfortable.

Not to expect too much (nor too little) is also good dating advice. If you expect too much from one date or from te person you are dating, it is highly likely that you will be discouraged by the results. After all, your date is only human too and first dates are generally at least slightly awkward.

One of the most frequently asked questions is: who foots the bill? The consensus in dating advice is that he/she who suggested the date pays. However, other people declare that it’s better to go Dutch every time and avoid hassles. There is yet another school of thought on dating advice that suggests that the man is not a “gentleman” if he doesn’t pick up the tab. In the case of a difference of policy between you and your date, come to a compromise that is mutually acceptable.

Texting your date before meeting is also a good idea as it puts him or her at ease and allows you to discuss interests and hobbies in an informal and less tense environment than a first date would be. This gives you something to work with if conversation lags.

At the end of the day, just bear in mind that, no matter how much dating advice you have under your belt, eventually, it is all up to you. No date is the last date, so if one doesn’t work out, don’t worry, there can be another one and if it still doesn’t work, there are always other people to meet.

Relationship Advice – The Truth About Relationships

If you are online trying to find a site about relationship advice; then most likely you and your partner are experiencing some type of trouble in your relationship. We all understand that trying to make a relationship with someone can be difficult.

When we fall in love and begin wearing our hearts and feelings on our sleeves then we open ourselves up to being hurt. However if you know how to make your relationship work it does not mean that we all have to end up being hurt.

A relationship is always going to take the efforts of both people to make it work however if it feels like it is nothing more than work; then you may not be with the right person. We all know that any time we are in a relationship it will be difficult; however it should feel more like fun that it does work.

A good relationship is going to be one of that will be filled with more good times than bad. If you discover that you are awkward and uneasy in your relationship; then you may want to reconsider that relationship because most likely it will never work out between you both.

Before you try to save a relationship it is important to remember the times that you both spent together; if all you can remember are the bad times then I would not try to save a relationship.

Most likely the only thing on your mind is the relationship advice on how to get your ex back; however you may begin to realize that this relationship is not right for you. If you just broke up last night or last week then there are some things that you should be aware of before you begin trying to get your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back.

People who are hurting tend to try to save a relationship too quickly. Please visit the site below and get the information that will tell help you determine whether you are ready to begin taking the steps to get your ex back or not. Patience is a virtue that we all have to develop; especially when it comes to this type of situation.

Getting Over Your Break Up – The Steps Involved

Why is it so difficult to remain in love? Everybody wonders the same thing after a particularly bad breakup. People have been breaking up since the custom of dating began, but we really aren’t that good at it yet. We often want desperately to get our ex back, but don’t really have the first clue about how to do that.

To start with, most people make the mistake of acting whiny and needy. They act desperately, but they never realize how unattractive that looks. Acting desperately means that your ex might pity you, but not fall back in love with you.

When your ex starts to pity you, that makes your job ten times harder. It’s not completely unheard of to reconnect with someone who pities you, but it’s definitely a lot more difficult.

I know that its tough not to act that way, especially when you really care about somebody. But you have to look from the outside in. How you present yourself in front of your ex, is the key.

All the emotions that you have, should be done in private. There is absolutely nothing wrong with crying or screaming, but do that in your own private time, not in front of your ex.

Also, try not to make yourself appear combative. That’s a real problem, and it’s definitely not going to score any points with your ex. It’s most likely to push them in the completely opposite direction. You’ve probably seen an ex-couple fight when you know that at least one of them wants to get back together!

The absolute last thing that a couple needs is to raise their voices with one another if they’re ever going to get back together.

If there are two words of advice that I would give to someone its be flexible. Forget being stubborn. There is no time for that. The only thing that should matter to you is how to get my ex-back. Having a rigid attitude will never help.

Methods To Use When Attracting Women

Dating is truly an art form that takes experience and time to master. Becoming better sometimes warrants that the male seeking a female look at tutorials and advice columns. After all, you can’t get experience without first meeting women to take out.

Power and wealth are two things that have been proven to have a profound impact on how a female judges a male in terms of attraction. Be warned that coming off a little strong or arrogant will quickly turn a female away. Instead, you may be subtle about the fact that you may be somewhat wealthy. Of course if you aren’t, there is no reason to lie- it will only hurt the process.

The scent of a male can make or break a date. A male that has a good-smelling cologne on can help prove to the female that good hygiene is important. You should also take note that wearing too much cologne to try and get noticed is a bad idea. Often times, a woman will make a personal note on how one smells, and not make it public. Just because they don’t say something doesn’t mean that they don’t smell your good intention.

You should already have a list of things that you think you would like to talk about for when silent moments come about. A silent moment proves that there is little chemistry to the woman, so try to keep things interesting. Being spontaneous and generally having as much fun as possible will show that you have an interesting personality- which women seem to go for.

Women typically like a guy who is somewhat mysterious. This means you shouldn’t spill all the details about you and your life on the first date. Instead, ask the woman questions and let her talk. It is a common fact that we all love to talk about ourselves- so it certainly will let the woman enjoy herself while you formulate new topics of discussion and fun. Don’t be afraid to talk- just don’t steal the show.

If you show signs of being dependent upon the woman, chances are she won’t be too inclined to ask for a second date. Do try to talk about your friends and family life, your responsibilities, and things you like to do for fun. In doing so, you are showing to the woman that you won’t always be available- which is actually a very good thing for budding relationships.

In Conclusion

Even though you may fail many times, success will come soon enough. Keep persistent in your quest to become a hit with the ladies, and you will soon find that the best tips will be the ones you find out for yourself. You will also find that every woman is different- making the process much more fun!

How to Get a UK Visitor’s Visa for a Thai.

Applying for a UK visitor’s visa for a Thai friend to go to the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland can be very stressful. I am also certain that it is more difficult for people from some countries than for others and Thailand falls into this latter category. This is because the staff are concerned about the applicant’s ability to support him/herself when they originate from a Third World country. This is UK government policy and you must not hold it against the British embassy staff – they are only carrying out orders! It is worth your while remembering this when you speak to the embassy staff about a UK visitor’s visa.

It is worth remembering that a bog-standard UK visitor’s visa as issued in Thailand is good for six months stay in Great Britain and multiple entries and exits. However, when applying for the visa in Bangkok, you will be asked the dates you want to go for. If you stipulate, say, the first three weeks in March, you will be asked to sign a note guaranteeing that you will return after that. The note is then pinned into your passport. You are required to sign this although the visitor’s visa is actually valid for six months.

Your UK visitor’s visa strenuously forbids you from claiming any money from the state, free help from the hospitals or doctors or working. It is not a work-permit! Many Thais are refused a UK visitor’s visa because they dither when asked why they want to visit the UK. You must be clear about why you want to go there. If it’s to visit a friend or lover, say so. It really is not a problem. But you must be prepared to prove your relationship. It must have lasted at least 6 months although this is not really ‘official government policy’.

So, how do we provide proof of a ‘continuous long-standing relationship’? well, it’s not that hard if it is true. Keep photos, mementos, hotel bills, bus tickets, ATM receipts, phone cards, letters and such like. Don’t exaggerate how long you have known each other besides the stamps in his passport there are other ways of becoming suspicious too. Do you know the names of any of his family? Do you know what he does for a living or where he lives? Is his father still alive? Get the picture? You must prove to a doubting Thomas that you are having a relationship (of over six months to be safe). They have seen many Thais try it on over the years.

Then you can proceed by obtaining the ‘Visa Application Form (VAF) from the British embassy in Wireless Road, Bangkok or from its website. The website is very helpful for advising what you should include with your visa application form, but it will often include the ‘evidence’ mentioned above, the passport, the fee, photos, and sponsor’s letter etc. In fact anything that helps you prove your case even a little bit.

So the sponsor is very important here. It is really up to your sponsor whether you get your first UK visitor’s visa at the first attempt. He has to guarantee that he will take care of you and provide you with somewhere to stay and the embassy staff will have to be convinced that he is up the job.

Your friendly sponsor will have to make you an offer of a holiday with accomodation in the UK. Then he will have to back up his claims with written proof. If he says he has money, he will need a letter from his employer or the bank. If he says he has a house, he will need a letter from his mortgage provider, a contract, deeds or a letter from the council. Marriage is not an issue, but some odd reasons given for refusal are:

“the applicant for a UK visitor’s visa has not been outside Thailand before ” a piece of cake, eh? Just fly down to Malaysia for a short vacation to break in her new passport.

“”the applicant for a UK visitor’s visa does not appear to have strong social or economic ties to Thailand”: they don’t trust you to return to Thailand. The solution is to get your boss and /or the puyai bahn (village elder) to write a letter saying that you are a responsible employee / family member.

Do not be tempted to hurry the application for a UK visitor’s visa. Ensure that you have a ‘valid reason’ for wanting to go to the UK and remember it; ensure that you can prove everything that you say. Pretend for the day of the interview for a UK visitor’s visa that you are a lawyer and provide solid, written proof.

Go over and over the details you have provided to the embassy until you really know them – as if for an exam. Your sponsor will not be with you, so get used to that. You will be asked some simple questions in English, but the main body of the interview can be in Thai, if you prefer.

Advice: if you want to stay in Britain for two weeks apply for four, because you don’t have flights yet and you may be delayed on your return. Also, if you kneed to cancel your visa, don’t fly back on a Friday, because the embasy is closed for the weekend.

Please do not be tempted to lie! The embassy staff are trained to weed out liars and they are good at their job. It will cost you your UK visitor’s visa if you are caught out. If you don’t know an answer, just say so.

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